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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller, Episode Number 93. The battle plan for living.

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You’re on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Brad believes every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad Hello, good people Welcome to pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller What an honor. While how cool is for you to join me today, as we talk a little bit about something special that’s happening as I record this message here today for you. It’s Veterans Day, Veterans Day weekend. And I prepared a message for you today called the battle plan for living based on understanding some military leaders, particularly General Douglas MacArthur and his strategy for winning. Here at the pathway to promise podcast we’re all about helping you win in your life, helping you to overcome those things that can get you down those things which we call adverse conditions, things like death of a family member or depression or divorce or breakup of a relationship, maybe getting a diagnosis of some terrible disease, maybe your debt. These are all things that can happen and we are here to help you head on over to pathway promised calm, we’ve got a free gift for you there. And we also have some great to back episodes, a pathway to promise with some great leaders, teachers, authors, and some teaching that can be helpful to your life today. Battle Plan for living, a commemorative edition for Veterans Day remembering some veterans have been pleased in my life. I’m not a veteran myself. But I’ve been pleased in my life to get to know some people who are military veterans, and they are awesome people. And they always have a sense of vitality and life and a sense of discipline and duty, which I really, really admire. One of the things that as I studied people who have been stressful situations, be it in business or education or athletics or anything else like that. People in military have almost always been in some stressful situations. And many times those who are successful and Situations understand that problems are a given that, that there is always going to be situations that are messed up. snafu as they call them in the military often, and the problems are to be understood, and then dealt with and overcome. And it oftentimes takes a battle plan in order to overcome those problems. And then to implement the plan but also know that a part of a battle plan is to adjust. So let me share with you a few thoughts today from some from things about having a battle plan for living in your life. But just say you got some big obstacles, some big adversity to overcome, maybe have a health issue, maybe you really want to lose 15 pounds before the first first of the New Year. You just did. That kind of thing just doesn’t just happen. You need to have a plan and then a process to get that done. Here’s some thoughts here. problems will never leave you alone. Problems adverse conditions are will always be there. In order to deal with that you need a plan, a battle plan, if you will.

Because sometimes problems are bigger than we expected. We can’t just let it slide. So here’s a couple of questions to ask ourselves before we enter into a battle. Let’s say we want to lose that 15 pounds. First question is, is victory achievable? And the second question is victory believable? So let’s just say you want to lose 15 pounds in two months time, is it achievable? Yes, more than likely it is it’s going to be a challenge. But it’s it’s a doable thing. Can you lose 100 pounds in two months? Unlikely. unlikely. You said I’m saying make your goals and this achievable range. And the second thing is is believable. This is the The inner, the mind games the mind the being mindful that we need to play with with ourselves our mindset, we need to believe it will make it a part of our fiber that we believe that we can do it we can believe that we can lose that 15 pounds and therefore victory is a an achievable Win It is also believable. So we have to ask ourselves that questions we have to convince ourselves of that. Digital Douglas martech Arthur, Gail outlined four or three actual strategies for winning his case for battle planning for winning. The first one is having a purpose for your battle. Is this a cause worth dying for? You need to assess that is losing that 15 pounds, super important to you? Is it a cause that can save your life in many cases it is you get your health together. It can help you with diabetes and heart disease, and other things that can impact the quality of your life, you need to ramp up the emotions of that. What is the purpose of your battle plan of the battle that you’re going after? And a second thing that there’s three P’s here, the first P is for purpose. The second P is for provision. What are your resources for battle? And are they adequate? And do you have the what you need to do this? What are your resources to get involved with this battle? With your resources you’re going to lose weight might be a diet regimen or exercise regimen or joining gym or getting a workout partner or consuming YouTube videos and other information about the various the diet plan or the eating plan that we want to take on. I use intermittent fasting myself with some success. What is your strategy? What is your provision? What are your resources that you need to do this? Do you Want to get some special, you know vitamins or a, our protein shakes or any other specific specific food items that you want to have? What are your resources? Ok. So the and then so the so you’ve got purpose and you’ve got provision. And the other thing we need is preparation. That is, is there any special training we need or any personnel we need to bring into your life, you’re gonna lose 15 pounds, maybe you want to hire a chef or maybe you want to go to the gym and hire a personal trainer. You might be you want to have someone you work out with a workout partner, maybe your spouse, or someone you get together with a friend or somebody at the gym. And you also then so you need that you need that resource that preparation but the other side of that another part of the preparation is kind of is to know your enemy, to know your enemy. For many of us the enemy is resistance. That’s the thing when we start to do something good resistance wants to do drag us down and prove prevent us from doing good stuff. We need to battle resistance because it will eat you alive if you allow it to. And there’s lots of good works and lots of good things about understanding this, this concept of resistance. So let’s unpack this just a little bit more. When we talk about purpose, what is a cause? worth dying for? What is your battle plan for a living? And what does it cause worth want or for worth dying for? A couple things to think about? What are your motives for doing this? Why am I doing this? Am I doing this for other people? Am I doing for myself? Why is simply question Why do you want to do this? Is it just a vanity thing? If so, that’s okay, too. But own it own? What are your motives for doing this? And the second thing we could think of in terms of a purpose or what are the values that are going to be enhanced or You need to employ when you want to go to attack this, this battle plan that you have the values weathers help others if you lose that weight for instance, whether it be an example to other people in your life, your children or your parents or your spouse, why am I doing this? So the motives is why am I doing this right motives are more important than the right moves in many cases. And the values have to do with this, how we, what we’re doing is indicator of our own personal values that we have and how we can then share those with with other people. So I want to encourage you to be about that values have to do with how will it help others. And the thing is, if you do what you do and helps other people, that’s a win for you, too. It’s a double win. Ziegler’s, the one who famously said in a lot of his training, you can get everything you want in life if you help other people to get what they want. So you got purpose and you Got, we give God the preparation. And the other thing is provision provisions. That is the resources that that we need. One of the resources that we can call upon is people, you know other people in our life, to speak into our life that might be a coach that might be a leader. It might be from a book or a tape or podcast, or YouTube videos, something we can understand about that help. Put surround ourselves with people who can speak into our life and give us good stuff into our life. This isn’t about just having people just to pat us on the back all the time, by the way, it’s having people who can coach us and hold us accountable and to help us to grow and to go on to defeat our enemy. Do you think and military leaders that they hold back if there is a true enemy to be to be defeated? They don’t just, you know, play nice all the time. It is about achieving the risk Salt of winning. And that’s what we want to do with the people another resource we might need as money when MIT other resources we need to understand what is it going to cost us to do this? If we do this diet thing for the weight loss thing, for instance, if that is our goal to achieve, what’s it going to take over again? Is this diet, we’re going to do want to join a gym? Do we want to have a coach, you want to have a diet system? You want to have an online system that you use? What kind of options does investing money in this process give you and what are you willing to invest that way? See it when you do this? It that’s understanding that what it’s going to cost to achieve things and many times we have to see if it’s worth the value, I would contend to you most most of time it is certainly military leaders need the resources monetarily and of the various things that they need to apply to the situation at hand. Another resource we have and this is where I want to get spiritual with you for a minute because we need to Call upon the resource of God or higher power, it can be at our life. That is another provision that we need. In the Bible it says and flip hands for God shall supply all your needs according to his riches, and his glory in Christ Jesus. And wherever you’re at in your life, my friends, whether you’re a Christian, a follower, Christ or not, I would invite you to call upon a power higher than yourself to speak into your life that will help you an awful lot. So it has to do with the purpose. The preparation piece of this has to do with getting the training that that that we need, we need to practice we need to do the things that we need to do and to the to use it as a part of our daily routine. If you want to lose that weight, you need to make your eating habits part of your daily life. You need to make your workout habits a part of your regular life. You need to make it a part of your team. Your habits that’s preparing to succeed. A lot of coaches will say that the games of athletic contest, basketball games, football games are won not on the field so much of the play, but in the time it takes a preparation and practice, I want to encourage you to be people who are winners, I having a great battle plan in your life, and then apply it any in your life. Here in this Veterans Day time, we can learn some things from other people, some military leaders, and apply it to your life. While we’re out here at the pathway to promise is practical, applicable solutions to help you to deal with adversity, adverse conditions in your life, to help you get through that time and achieve your promise life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. And we encourage you to do that head on over to pathway promise calm, you can see some back issues of the podcast there had some other resources for you, and some other things that we could do to be helpful to you. That’s what we’re do get a free gift for you there. We invite you to check out pathway promise. com.

So until next time, friends this is Dr. Brad Miller and I want to encourage you to keep your promises because there’s power in our promise. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com. Until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 92. How to be contented

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You are on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller Bradley’s every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad hello good people. Welcome back to pathway to promise podcast where we are all about helping you overcome adversity, to achieve your promise life of peace, prosperity and purpose. We do that by sharing good news of your life. One of the good news things that you can have in your life is to understand what it means to be happy, what it means to be a contented person. We’re going to talk about that today here on pathway to promise, we want you to know you can always go to our website pathway promise com, you can find past episodes of the podcast, where we some great teachers and leaders and authors who speak into your life about how helping you to overcome whatever adversities you have in your life, to achieve great things in your life, overcome things and to achieve peace, prosperity and purpose. We have a free gift for you there and we invite you to go to pathway promise calm and to get connected to our community there. contentment, and our last episode of the pathway to problems we talked about a formula or a way to be discontented and I certainly believe that being discontented or being annoyed fulfilled is an epidemic proportions in our world. People are unsatisfied people are in bad places, and that leads to destructive behavior. It leads to very rude and nasty attitudes that people treat one another. And it leads to just a sense of loneliness, and guilt and pain. That doesn’t have to be that way. Doesn’t have to be that way. I just want to share with you friends that it is a choice whether we are discontented with our life, or whether we are contented with our life. But it means we need to take some action and to do something about it. And I want to share with you a few thoughts today about how we develop our strengthen our sense of contentment in our life. Let me share with you a few thoughts here today about that. I develop contentment in my life when I sense that someone else cares for me Now I want to share with you a little bit more about that. This means sometimes we have to look for this, because we have some of us who have had lonely existence. But we know we have to seek out positive relationships. We have to surround ourselves with people who do care about us. And if we don’t feel like anybody cares about it, then invest in somebody else, and show them that you care. And the Law of Reciprocity will come around and will impact in your life almost surely. I want you to know that there’s lessons from other people and there’s lessons from the Bible, which can speak into your life. I know the Apostle Paul talks about this where he said, when he was in prison, he wrote an encouraging letter to folks, and he shared with them about what I share. You have done well to share with me and my affliction. That is what Paul was saying. Even as wrote encouraging letters from prison. He also shared that he was thankful for the support he got from other people. He was thankful. One doctor has said that there are different emotions that produce disease and human beings. And those emotions are fear and frustration, rage, resentment, hatred, envy, and jealousy. And the really the only antidote that can save people from being destroyed by these factors. This research doctor said is the emotion of love. The emotion of love.

You know, this is the case, don’t you? You know, this is the case. When we show people love and love happens, it helps them and when people love us, it helps us as well. Tell people that you love them. Tell people that you care, and you’re much more likely to have someone tell you that they care about you. Now, that can be a simple thing. It can be a verbal thing in the family. It might be a Facebook post where you share a good word with somebody and do it even beyond their birthday, things like that. Share posts, write a card, write a card just because do those things. And you will get some reciprocity back in your life. Do you want to be content in your life, then show appreciation for others, then you will have this important factor of sensing and knowing and feeling confident that you are cared for. Another way to develop contentment in your life is to know that you are growing. Get to know you’re growing is to do good things I like to call dark humidity. We have here on the made a promise to good people. And good people do good things. And good things mean we are growing people. Good thing might be reading a book, it might be listening to a podcast, it might be growing, growing our knowledge, or it might be serving in a soup kitchen or it might be serving in some other way. Be confident in your life that when you do good things, God will do good things in you. And the Bible that says among other things, he says, God who began to good your good work and you will perfect it in you. Until the day of Christ Jesus goes on to say, it is God who is at work in you both to willing to work for his good pleasure. You see, friends, if you’re a believer, then you believe you’re going on to perfection someday to be with Christ. But for all of us, I believe when you do good stuff, it helps you grow. And I want to encourage you to be good people do Good stuff up for others, but do you do good things for other people, you will grow and guess what, you will become more content because you are contributing to what? The greater good, you’re good you have established for yourself a goal, which gives you purpose here and the pathway to progress, we like to say that we are all about helping you develop your peace and, and prosperity and purpose and the purpose place means that we have a contract. The purpose, peace means that we have a contribution to make for the greater good. We have a sense of understanding that we have a reason to exist. We have goals and our life, growth produces happiness. Art Linkletter said this. He was a entertainer from the 60s and 70s. He said this growth is happiness. I never want to be what I want to be because there’s always Always something out there yet for me, I get a kick out of living in the here and now. But I never want to feel I know the best way how there’s always one Hill higher with a better view, something waiting to be learned that I never knew to my days are over and never fully Fill my cup. Let me keep on growing up, had some good things there. A couple more things about growing your contentment. I tried to understand your circumstances in light of a bigger plan. Circumstances happened to us here on the pathway to promise we talk about adverse conditions, the five DS of death and depression and divorce and debt and, and and depression and disease. Those things that can happen to all of us those are circumstantial, but we can’t overcome those if we choose to. And we see things in a bigger plan especially we see things in life God’s bigger plan for us how God uses our circumstances, God uses our situations to grow us as people, then we could have a much better attitude and better understanding of being content in all circumstances.

One of the things I’ve a person journals a lot when they interested, anything interesting things that you can do is go back and look at your old journals, or an old diary from say, five or 10 years ago. And sometimes you may write in there something that was happening at that at the time, which was a big deal. You know, a big situation, maybe buying a home or maybe you had to change jobs, or maybe you had to deal with a health issue or relationship matter. But oftentimes, if you go to your present cert present situation, you look back on it, you’ll see that in retrospect, it was handled, it was dealt with, it was cared for, and you might even think, man, it wasn’t such a big deal after all, but the time it was View your circumstances and a bigger picture and on the panorama of your life, one of the panorama of your relationships, that this is a moment. But this is a moment that you do not have to be stuck in circumstances can turn out to be a part of the process of growing for the greater good. Just because you may be seemingly in prison right now, the day can come when you can get out of prison, and you can speak into the world out of your experience. See friends that if we have pain in our life, that’s one thing. But if we get stuck in the malaise of mediocrity, if we get stuck in our on our pain, then what purpose is it? Sure sir. So there is no greater pain really than pain without purpose. So use the pain in your life and use it to move forward in your life. I would just also contend to us that as people of faith, you just need to desire something greater than yourself. For some of us that may be a life of faith or life of Jesus, but have something greater than yourself that you could strive for. And to know that you have something that you want to die for something you’re willing to give up everything for. And that’s what I want to encourage you to do here today to have contentment in your life. Couple more things that we can do is that to sink on good stuff, fill your mind with good things, hang around other contented people. You know, it said that we are highly influenced by the people around us who are contented. Well, I encourage you to do that. To allow yourself to be surrounded by those folks if we can be helpful here at the pathway to promise we want to do just that. And understand that our circumstances and contentment are related as We already talked about that a little bit. Rely on a power greater than ourselves here at the pathway to promise we want to help you do those things we hope to want to build contentment in your life to give you some tools and some processes in order to move through your adversities to achieve your life of peace, prosperity and purpose. You over to our website pathway promise calm and you can find some good stuff there. They can help build your life of contentment. They’ll build your life of good stuff. And we invite you to do just that. We have a free gift for you their pathway promised calm you can pick that up. Also, you can also hear great teaching from other people we’ve interviewed on the pathway to promise we can help fill your life with good things. So until next time, friends, live a life of contentment. Choose contentment or discontentment and remember to keep your promises because there’s power and a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the path later. Promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com. Until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 91. How to be discontent Hi, I’m Jeff Brown from the read to lead podcast and every great leader not only reads but is committed to overcoming any barriers to their vision. The pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller will help you do just that. You’re on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller Bradley’s every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad Hello, good people. Welcome to pathway to problems with Dr. Brad Miller. Thank you so much for joining me today as we have some conversation about important matters in life about how to be happy or how to be not happy. Today we’re going to talk about what it means to be dis content, which I believe is a malady that affects a lot a lot of people in our world, people who are unsatisfied, who are not content with their state in life, and who are searching for meaningfulness and sense meaning less deaths in their life, which is indicated by being unhappy or being discontent with their life situation. Here at the pathway to promise podcast we are all about helping you get through times like that. There are circumstances we all face, we like to call them are adversities or add various conditions. Things like death in the family are having a disease diagnosis or at being a geek being in debt or going through a divorce or a breakup of a relationship or depression, these things which can put us on the sidelines, which can make us discontent if we choose it for them to and the pathway to promise we believe that God has given you an opportunity to have peace, prosperity and purpose. And our podcast episodes on our blog pathway promise, calm is here to be helpful to you in that process to help you find a pathway. A way to get through we like to call it a 40 day way. So head on over to our website pathway promise calm, get our free gift there and get connected with our community. Dis contentment. Have you ever been discontent? I bet you have. And if we allow ourselves to we can stay stuck in discontentment. So I’m going to share with you a few thoughts today on how to be discontent if we want to be. Well let’s talk about then what it means to be content because the opposite of that would be to be discontented. So, contentment is not about containing my emotions. So, if we want to be discontented, we let our emotions go crazy go rapid, we ruled by our emotions that contentment is not maintaining the present situation or the status quo. So, be discontent means we choose to stay stuck to accept the status quo. If you want to be discontented, we need to understand that the definition of contentment is about, of contentment is not about attaining more possessions. So, just contentment would be about thinking that getting more stuff will somehow solve our inner life or issues of discontentment. That’s not the case. Webster’s dictionary says that happy that happy enough with what one contentment means. One is happy enough with what one has not desired something more or different, satisfied. If you’re feeling unsatisfied with your present situation, then you are just content.

I like I’m a pastor church and so I like to draw some lessons life lessons out of the Bible. And Phillip Ian’s chapter four, it talks about some things I just want to share with you now, whether you’re a person of faith or not, I think there’s some good things that you can control out of this. And Paul says, finally, Brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely. Whatever is a good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things. The things you’ve learned and received and heard and not seen in me, practice These things, and the God of peace shall be with you. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. So those words there help us understand and what contentment is not what contentment is. So I want to share with you this bit of a formula debt is the secret of contentment. And so if we do the opposite of that, damn, where we’re discontent in this where a lot of people are at, the first thing is attitude. That is how we think right? So we want to be discontent. We have stinking thinking, as I’ve heard, it said, we don’t think about good stuff. But you want to think about good stuff and you can be to be and you can be content. Then you add to that action, action, attitude plus action and that is doing the right thing. So if you want to be discontent, do the wrong thing. And most of the times we know what the wrong thing is. It is making that bad decision at work or on our relationship or saying the wrong thing or and somehow out. throwing a fit can be a way of indicating our discontentment. If we take positive action that can lead us to contentment. And then that leads us to a sense of adequacy mean at the beat to have enough that’s the feeling right? That’s the emotional piece. So if we don’t feel right, if we allow our emotions be in turmoil, then that’s going to mess up everything else we could choose and whether where you are contented, or dis contentment. So let me unpack this a little bit further. I believe that contentment is a quality that is learned. So if we want to be discontent, then we choose not to learn. We choose not to read. We choose not to think we choose not to listen to great teachers, whether it’s live or into the classroom setting or in a podcast or, or other forums where we can learn from others. We want to stay stuck, we want to sit closed off, we want to stay walled in. Like in the Bible scripture read, Paul said, I have learned to be content. So that’s an active thing to do. Learn to be content. So I want to invite you to think about that. If you want to stay discontented. Don’t learn. Don’t pick up a book, don’t do anything else to give yourself the opportunity to expand your brain, expand your sense of the resources that you have.

contentment does not depend on our circumstances. So that means if we are discontented, we are ruled by our circumstances. We feel like, man, all this bad stuff happens to me. Things just don’t go right for me, and sometimes saying things don’t go right. But they are circumstance Bad things happen to all people. They do. You can have all these things we like to call the adversities, the five DS of adversity we talked about here on the pathway to promise. Those are things like the one D is depression, another one is debt. Another the third D is disease and other DS divorce or rather large relationships and breakup. And the fifth D is death is the death death of a loved one, or thinking about that. We can get stuck in any of those places. Those are all circumstances that happened to all people, but our level of contentment or discontentment depends on how much we are ruled by those. We choose that Ben Franklin said to be the D to the discount discontented man, no chair is easy. So I will continue friends, we believe from the pathway to promise that God has given you a god given life of peace, prosperity and purpose. And so if we’re Be discontented, then we don’t believe that. We don’t believe that good things can come to us. And we understand that contentment means we draw strength from a power greater than ourselves. We draw strength from I like to feel about God. And as a Christian is Jesus Christ who I draw, draw strength from. It works like this friends, there’s four stages for gifts I believe that God gives us that help us to overpower discontentment. One is the bold is to take bold action, and we talked about that. That’s the formula like to say it’s the Be bold action. Take taking action is an antidote to being stuck. The second thing is drawing on a higher power. That’s the PBP power means that we draw in a higher power than ourselves. That means we have a meditative life we have an inner life. I like to say say we have a spiritual life that we draw on a higher power. And those of us who are people of faith, we draw Our power greater than ourselves that we know that on our own, we just can’t do this. And the then the next thing is love. We need to have a love of self love of others. I love a family and friends that helps fuel us, strengthen us, give us the energy in order to overcome our circumstances, overcome our adversity. And then that so there’s a B for bold action, the P for power and the hell for love. And then the fourth element here, the fourth gift from God is D for discipline or self discipline. That’s the cognitive piece. That’s how we learn action. We do habits and other things that happen that we can do actively. It’s the implementation of the action that we take in order to be content with our situation in life. It’s looking to get better, not better, and doing the things we need to do. For one things I like to do is journal. The things I like to do is be in prayer. Another thing I like to do is be in conversation, deep conversation, as we try to do here on the pathway to promise. These are some things that can help you. If you choose to be discontented, your choice, you can do it. I just gave you the formula or the or the the recipe for that. But I think you know, that the choice is really up to you, whether you’re going to be content, or discontent, and our next episode of the pathway to promise we’re going to talk about how to enhance and to develop and to strengthen our contentment. So I invite you to tune in to Episode 92 for that. So until next time, friends, this is Dr. Brad Miller. Just want to encourage you to keep your promises because there’s power, get a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web. pathway promise.com until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 90. Elevate your attitude.

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You’re on the pathway to a promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Bradley’s every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad.

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Awesome that you have chosen to spend a few moments with me today, as we have a conversation just you and I about some things that matter including your attitude and mind. We’re going to talk today about elevating your attitude, and how that makes all the difference in the world. Here at the pathway to promise podcast we’re all about helping you to overcome any adversity in your life, to achieve what we believe, is your God given promised life, peace, prosperity and purpose. We believe God has intentions for you which are nothing but good. Nothing but good. But we in our lives can sometimes be sidelined by an adverse condition might be a death in the family, it might be losing a job, it might be a breakup of a romance, it might be a financial reversal. It could be a diagnosis of a bad disease like cancer, all kinds of things can happen and they happen All of us but how you deal with it makes a difference, and a pathway promise. com our website, we’ve got lots of episodes of great teachers and leaders who give us insights of how to overcome some adverse condition to achieve success in your life. We like to call it the promise life, the promise life of peace, prosperity and purpose. So check us out we got a free gift for you there at our website, as well pathway promise.com attitude. I’ve been privileged on a number of occasions, to visit folks in difficult circumstances, including in prisons. I remember visiting and a juvenile center one time a juvenile detention center. And one of the administrators there said something to me to effective Well, all these kids in need is an attitude adjustment. Well, I took that to mean that there needed to be in their mind at least somehow Side forced to pressure them, I took it as a bit of a negative. Whereas I know that with a young person who I was visiting and other people need on not only a positive pressure from the outside, but they need to be encouraged to elevate their attitudes about themselves. And I want to encourage you to think now about raising the level of your personal attitude. Think about with me for a moment about somebody in your life who you admire. This might be somebody you know, personally, or might be an author or a leader. It might be a movie star or a musician, or might be a writer, or a podcaster. Or a pastor. Somebody that you admire. Why do you admire them? What is it about them that gets your interest? Is it their tenacity? Is that their talent? Is it their faith? Is it their commitment Is that how they explain things? Is it their countenance? Is it that they’re fun to be with? Or they’re transparent or they are inspirational? What is it about them? I bet a lot of it has to do with their attitude. I bet a lot of it has to do with the attitude which they exude from their life, which impacts all the people who they influence, which includes you, which includes you. So, think about that. The attitude of someone is influencing you and lifted up your life or else you wouldn’t admire them. And how now can we take that same thing and take our own attitude, it elevated in such a way to be fulfilled ourselves, which is what we’re talking about here, as well as be inspirational and helpful to other people. I think you can do it. I know you can. William James, a writer said this the greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude of mind. This means friends, you can choose to alter or adjust, if you will, your attitude. If we want to do it,

if we think about it, our attitude affects our outcome. If we go into something thinking that we can do it, and believing we can do over are much more likely to succeed than to go into some endeavor, and thinking we can’t do it, but battle is one before the battle has begun. I’ve heard it said. So here’s what I want to give you a bit of an attitude checklist before you enter into an endeavor. Let’s just say you’re going to go into a new project or to start a new new job. So watch this attitude. You know what, I gotta wait and see, I guess. gotta see how this thing goes. I gotta feel it out. isn’t a negative attitude? I don’t really want to do this. I don’t want to do this. Are there certain new experiences that kind of automatically make you feel negative? If they are identified and you know, some people, I went to the dentist recently and we kind of joked around about how some people just don’t like go to the dentist. And there’s a fear of that. Well, what your attitude towards whatever it is, and then think about that and how you can maybe change that. Now does our attitude that affect us in what we feel about our job or about our family or about God? And if so, how can we fix it? How can we do something about that? You see, friends, I believe, if we fix our mind what is possible, not just on the problems that can be happening, or when we fix your mind on the facts, not just on our feelings that can have an impact on how things come out.

A second thought here is an attitude towards People perseveres are predetermine, or attitudes, their attitudes towards me. That is, oftentimes when we how we share about other people is reflected right back to us. I think that’s the case, don’t you? If someone greet you with a smile and a good high energy word, that we just react to them differently, then then we do otherwise are in this makes a difference. However, just this morning, one of the habits that I have is I address most people I encounter whether they be a child or an older person, as young man or young woman. And today, just this morning, I happened to be in a local place getting my car worked on. And there was a gentleman coming out as I was coming in, he was gray hair and a beard. So one night he just held the door for me and I said, Well, thank you young man. And he turned around and did a pivot towards me young I’m 70 years old. What do you mean young man? And I said to him, Well, you, apparently Do you feel offended by that? And he said, No, I don’t feel offended by that. I just feel surprised. And people often feel that way when we call them young. See friends, it makes a difference. He’s going to remember that. Also today, I got a phone call from somebody who just out of the blue, called me and just said they want to pray for me. And that made me feel so good that they wanted to pray for me. So already today, I have had experiences where my attitude has had apparently a positive impact on somebody else got their attention, and someone else’s attitude. upgrade for me has got my attention. Yeah, I heard it’s been said. The Stanford Research folks did a survey that talked about a person’s success at their job, but the work is 30% knowledge about the product, or the service and 87% knowledge about people about relationships. That’s important. Let’s talk about some ways that you can intentionally elevate your attitude, especially in regards to other people. Number one thing that you can do in regards to other people is be very intentional about remembering their name. If a person has a name tag, use it, read their name, if you hear somebody’s name repeated in your head a few times, or try to connect it with some other memory trigger that you can have. Also, another thing that we can do with with other people is request their help. You know, nothing makes the other person feel more important and to do something for you, that you cannot do for yourself. Think about that. Even in like a retail store, where someone helps you to shop for something to Christmas time. When I go shopping for my wife or my kids. I often especially if it’s a clothing item, I almost always ask someone to Help me with a selection or purpose in they are almost always, genuinely happy to be asked to help. A third thing you can do for with other people is to recognize them recognize their potential. And that is having a great expectation that they can do well. So, and then being introspective about who they are as a people. So recognize it, lift somebody up, and they’ll be recognized for who they are. Recently, I encountered a young person, a teenager, and I asked him to serve on a on a planning board that I’m working on in my local church, and they were thrilled about being asked and being recognized as a young person to take on a more adult responsibility. Another thing we can do is reward people for their efforts. Our reward might be the same Thank you, where it might be a card, where maybe a handshake, where might be something else more, more deeper than that. reward people show people their potential, encourage them, fulfill help them know that they are that they are appreciated. These are when we do these things for other people that will help us. You see, our attitude is the difference between success and failure for many of us, but also in the attitude we express towards others is often the difference between success and failure in the organization’s or the groups that we we are part of the guess where it starts starts with us. So our attitudes can turn problems into blessings and just how we look at it. When we have an attitude of how can I get this done? Instead of letting this block me, we can net we understand that the problem is not the problem. Our process is this needs to be adjusted. You see, we understand that there’s a problem. We recognize it. Then we need to break it down, kind of critique it. See what we need to do about it. Then we can choose what the next steps are to deal with it. And we can get good about it. So yeah, when you give, when you have a good attitude, France, it gives you an uncommon perspective, a perspective that looks kind of from the outside in and helps you see what is possible. And that way our attitude can be our best friend or our worst enemy. You see, friends, I just want to encourage you to have an attitude that makes a difference in your life, and the life of other people that can make a big a big difference. You see,

oftentimes, friends, ultimately, it’s our attitudes about things, not our achievements, which make us happy. And I will dwell on this for a second because I’ve been privileged to be around a lot of people the end of their life. I’ve preached probably well over 200 funerals in my life and my career. And one of the things I’ve often noticed about people when they talk about People at the end of their life is very rarely do they say that he or she became vice president of the company they were part of, or that here, she drove a Cadillac or he she made this much money, they would talk about how they treat other people. They would talk about relationships, they would talk about the things they did to serve other people, or how they would bring joy to other people, or how they would help improve the lives of other people. It’s not about achievement. It’s about attitude. And here’s the other thing, friends just want to kind of want to leave you with this. We choose what we do about our attitude, or attitude will change when we want it to change. And that just means we have to understand the importance of attitude and making that a part of our life. Don’t blame others. You know, we choose our attitude. And let me encourage you to be about that. Say our attitudes need to be good. Haley tweaked and adjusted because life happens does it circumstances happen. So we need to be constantly fed, fill yourself with Good stuff, good books, start with the Bible, if you will. But a good books good encouraging tapes, podcast, other things that help fill your life, and most importantly, encouraging people in your life that will help you when you have that. And I invite you to be just that if we can be helpful to you here at the pathway to promise podcast we want to do just that, to help to elevate your attitude to help you deal with adversity, Francis because adversity is one of those circumstances which can beat us up and bring us down and you need a process in order to get through that. We have a 40 day way process we’re working on we have a book coming out sometime the next few months about the promise given life which will be helpful to you. Meanwhile, on our podcast, your pathway a pathway to promise and pathway promised com you can hear great teachers from myself and from smothers great leaders and authors and teachers, who have something to say to your life, to pour into your life, to help you to elevate your attitude and make your life better, and help us to deal with those problems, those adversities that we have, we’re here to be helpful. We hope that we can go to our website pathway promise com, we got a free gift for you there that which will be helpful to you. And we got more episodes of the pathway to promise podcast upcoming with some great interviews with some folks who will speak deeply into your life. So until next time, friends, this is Dr. Brad Miller, I want to encourage you to keep your promises because there’s power in a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise but Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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Brad Miller 0:00
pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 89. Total Life freedom with the author of Freelancer freedom, Vincent pick Lacey.

Jeff Sanders 0:14
This is Jeff Sanders, author of the free time formula, helping busy people find happiness, focus and productivity. My friend Dr. Brad Miller will help you find your promise life of peace, prosperity and purpose. Right here on the pathway to promise podcast.

Brad Miller 0:32
You’re on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Brad leaves every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the path Wait a promise. Now here’s Brad. Hello Good people. Welcome to pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. It’s awesome to have you here with me today as we talk about things that matter. Something that matters a lot is having fulfillment and freedom in your life. And what if you don’t have that? What if your job isn’t fulfilling? What if you’re financially stressed? What if there are stresses in your family relationships and your marriage and in your with your children and with your parents, with her stress everywhere that’s causing you to feel compressed and stressed? Or all through today Vincent Lacey is going to be sharing with us freedom is the author of freelance to freedom and he’s going to be sharing with us what what he what he did in his life when he thought constricted and all these areas. Great the pathway to promise podcast we are all about helping you to overcome stresses in your Life, whether it’s the pressure of debt that’s crushing you, or maybe you are not fulfilled in the workplace, maybe you’ve got depression. Or maybe you’ve experienced a death in the family or perhaps you’ve had a diagnosis of some something bad like a disease, cancer or something. Maybe relationship is messed up divorce. Whatever it is, we’re here to be helpful to you on the pathway to promise podcast, we teach and we lead about a process to help you discover your God given promise, life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. And we do so by teaching about that and also by sharing with great guests like we have today. You can always go to our website pathway a promise com, find out more about us find back issues of the podcast, and also some other helpful tools for you there to help you overcome adversity and achieve your life a peace, prosperity, and purpose. When the ways we do that is talking to great people like Vincent pick Lacey. Listen, I have to things in common. We both spent some time living in Evansville, Indiana. We had different paths there. He was a photographer for the local newspaper, and award winning photographer. And I was a pastor of a church there. And, but he also found himself in a situation where he was winning awards for his photography. He was successful in his career. But it wasn’t working and other aspects of his life, including financially. And he didn’t feel like he had the flexibility in the freedom that he really wanted to have to spend time with his children, to be involved with his spouse, and to have freedom in his life to have what he really wanted to do to have quality in his life. So that’s what I wanted to talk to you today. What we want to talk about today, here is having quality comes in your life and doing whatever it takes to break some patterns to have freedom. You’re gonna love this interview we have here today with Lacey from the total life of Freedom podcast and the author of freelance to freedom. And our guest today is an author and a podcaster bits of big Lacey. He is all about people who desire freedom in their life, to do the work, they love to thrive financially, to control your time, to own your own business to own your own life. And he has several methods and things that he’s done in his life. To help him do that. He has a free he has a book called freelance to freedom. We’ll say more about that in a little bit and a podcast called the total life freedom podcast. It’s all about freedom with Vincent. Vincent, welcome to pathway to promise. Thank you so much. I appreciate you having me here. It’s awesome to have you here. Vance. love what you have to share about heavy freedom in your life and I’ve seen your work and other aspects of we’ll talk about what you’re doing now. But I first got acquainted with you as a photographer in my hometown newspaper of Evansville, Indiana, and I saw your work then So what I’d like to hear a little bit about you is just little bit about your life kind of got you from a small city photographer and you can say more about that to what you are now a leader of a dynamic business and author of podcaster Tim a little bit about your story my friend

Vincent Pugliese 5:16
Yeah, there’s there’s a lot of layers to it in terms of like, you know, what adversity there’s, it seems like it happened in every every stage. That’s why some people aspect what is the How did you get through it? It depends on which part of the story you ask, right? For me, in the beginning, I was a terrible student. I was lost. So the people that didn’t do well in school and wanted to do something later on in life. I’m kind of, you know, something that went through that because I just learned on the day before graduation, that I was even graduated from high school. I was arrested when I was 18 years old for stealing. I had no moral compass, really rough time in my life. And that went on till I was 22 years old when really I had a nightmare that I got caught stealing again. I was living with my parents again, and I went downstairs to just kind of comment contemplate was the first time I ever said to myself, like, what are you doing with your life? And I, you know, my dad came downstairs and me my dad didn’t get along, as you could imagine, because I wouldn’t get along with me at that point. But he said to me goes, What’s wrong? And I said, I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. And he very simply was just your two o’clock in the morning. Well, you like taking pictures, you like sports, that’s all I did was watch sports or, or listen to music. It’s like, why don’t you take a photography class, you could maybe be a sports photographer. And, you know, a couple years earlier, I just realized, you know, I have nothing to lose anymore. Because I had nothing to gain. There was no, no, there was no expectations. So I thought, I’m going to go all in and that’s when I just I decided I bought a camera. The next day, I signed up to community college, to learn, you know, something about photography, which I didn’t know much about. And I said, for the first time, like, I am dedicated, I’m going to do this. And a year later, I was shooting professional sports. I wasn’t making much money, but I was doing what I love to do for the first time. And that’s what led to a 20 something year career in that.

Brad Miller 6:58
Yeah, it’s so you found you’re passionate about and love to do. And that led you to a career in sports photography. And but there’s somewhere along the line, things didn’t quite work out in that part of your life in your professional life as a photographer, and that led you to go some different directions. You ran into some adversity, the theme of what our podcast is about is helping people overcome adversity. So share a little bit of that part of the story where you run into some blocks and some things you had to overcome.

Vincent Pugliese 7:24
Yeah, we were kind of normally I’d gotten out of it. You know, my school days were behind me. I was. I was named William Randolph Hearst national photographer the year out of college. So I was the top college student, which is the opposite when I was in high school, met my awesome wife at college at Ohio University and got jobs in Evansville. So but we became normal. We both got staff jobs right out of college. And unlike before now, I got complacent. We, we got a mortgage. I got a car payment. We had student loans. We started buying stuff on credit card, we became just like everybody else. We became real my real life. He did that. Yo, it didn’t hit as much as I went after it. Yeah, okay, gotcha. Nobody made me do it. I just basically decided to be like everybody else, which is not me. And so what happened was, I was, you know, shooting post pro sports. So from Evansville, I was going to St. Louis to shoot the Rams games back when they were the best team and football and the Titans and, you know, I really aggressive in terms of shooting these things. And I won international sports photographer the year, which is the biggest award, you could win in my field. And at the same time, I want it Elizabeth won a major award, the same competition. And we got flown to Washington, DC to National Geographic for the award ceremony. Really big deal. At the same time, Elizabeth got pregnant with our first son, we were married a year, two years earlier. So it all came down. Andrew is now 14. He’s one month from being born. I just win this award. And everybody’s like, Oh, this is when you get your raise because I was only making $32,000 a year. But I was you know, considered one of the top so I’ll went to my boss for the for the interview in terms of what, in terms of the rays. And he said to me, You know you had your best year ever. I know you have the baby coming blah, blah, blah, but the best we could do is give you 3%.

Brad Miller 9:12
You know, that’s,

Vincent Pugliese 9:13
that’s things. And it’s one of those things where you just go. And I said to him, I said no matter what I do, because I work 20 hours overtime every week to make sure that photography was fantastic. We all did, we went above and beyond. I said to him, no matter what I do, no matter how hard I work, no matter how many awards, I win, I just stopped myself. And this is my dream career. Now this is like this is the thing I’ve been fighting for for 10 years. And I remember just sitting there and saying it’s over. I can’t do this, because I’ve got a baby on the way. And I looked out into the newsroom I saw and it just hit me how disgruntled so many people were.

Brad Miller 9:50
You had an aha moment in you

Vincent Pugliese 9:52
total aha moment where you realize all the stuff that you’ve been hearing now it makes sense. Now it makes sense. It’s like I don’t want to be 65 complaining about my job and struggling with money. And so I went home, I was really, you know, supposed to be working. I just left. And I called my dad to see if I could do some work for him. And he said, No. See my dad.

Brad Miller 10:14
That hurts to desert. My goodness. It so

Vincent Pugliese 10:16
that’s that moment I still remember like was yesterday but he said something that changed my life. He said, I’ve been trying to tell you this for years, you haven’t listened. Maybe you listen this time. He said, You have a skill, but you’re not using it correctly. And I’m listening. I’m like, What do you mean? you’re settling for 30 years, you become a really good photographer you didn’t used to be, but you worked really hard. You became that but you’re settling for $32,000 a year and benefits. Where you can go shoot sports, you can go shoot weddings, you can go shoot commercial work, you can make as much money as you want to make and control your schedule. But you’re settling for this and hear your dad say that well, usually your parents push you towards something more safe. Right? And that was the way my mom was very, you know You had a government job slow and steady. And we decided that day to start a business. And it was also though

Brad Miller 11:05
he’s telling you not settle. That’s awesome. That’s an awesome thing. And, and you heard it and you get something about it. Did you? What were some of the actions that you took to not settle?

Vincent Pugliese 11:15
Immediately? I started calling photographers in the phone book. You remember the phone book? I Oh, yeah. That Susan got the phone. And every one of them turned me down. Can I be an assistant? Can I be a second shooter? They all turned me down. They knew I was they’d seen me in the newspaper. I’ve been there for five years, four years. And finally, I just took the phone book and I threw it against the wall. And I was like, you know, you always hear like, if you can’t beat them, join them. I was like, Well, you can’t join them. We’re gonna beat them. So that’s literally how it started not knowing anything about business. So whenever people say like, I don’t know anything about business. I’m not a business person. I’m not not. Neither were we. We were employees. And but we had to if we wanted the life of freedom that we wanted, we need to get uncomfortable and do that. Yeah.

Brad Miller 11:56
So what were somebody So you started this business? So we’re doing like wedding. So this type of thing. Yeah, we start with the weddings, because

Vincent Pugliese 12:03
we figured we can get the Saturdays. We can make more money in short amount of time. And we can take our journalism background and just bring that to weddings. So everybody like

Brad Miller 12:14
your wife was with you on the Yeah, she’s a

Vincent Pugliese 12:17
better photographer than I am. Yeah. So I just downplayed the story so much, because we just keep talking about these things. But she’s a phenomenal photographer, but she also wasn’t into the business idea. So we need to go into this with a with a baby on the way, by the way, right? She’s about to birth. And we booked our first wedding a week before Andrew was born. We didn’t know at

Brad Miller 12:37
the end, you had to have a transformation of your mindset that didn’t events, you had to transform from a kind of a corporate gig type of thing to business and entrepreneurial type of thing immediately from employee to entrepreneur. And now what do I read? What do I study? Did you leave your job immediately?

Vincent Pugliese 12:54
No, we weren’t that bold. Looking back. As soon as everything what would you do different And I would have invested in myself more, instead of being so scarce with our money, even though we paid out our debt in three years, but I would have, I would have quit sooner knowing what the potential was, but we didn’t know. So I was scared.

Brad Miller 13:17
You know, there’s that unknown factor. And, you know, as such, there’s such a tug. Also, when you’re in the corporate world, when you’re in the world, when most of us are there’s such that tug, almost that magnetic thing to keep you there in that world. Oh, including,

Vincent Pugliese 13:34
including your co workers were crazy to go start a business. They’re all not doing it. Why would you? Why wouldn’t you just be happy with what you have? Right? Just be happy you have a job. And, and I didn’t want that. Oh,

Brad Miller 13:45
that sounds like settling, doesn’t it?

Vincent Pugliese 13:47
It absolutely sounds like that’s what everybody wants you to do. Because I think if you go and do it, it shines a light on them that they didn’t do it.

Brad Miller 13:55
Sure. Sure. And the with the with the risk does come The possibility of failure, but also comes the possibility of success and reward. So, tell me a little bit about some of the processes that you did kind of on the, I want to delve a little bit further with you that’s on this area of this inner work of mindset change that you had and what, what happened to what kind of work did you have to do in this mindset change? I know you said you had to take action immediately. But what kind of inner work did you do? Did you look for books? Did you look for tapes? Did you look for a any kind of spiritual insight? Did you? Where did you go to feed yourself in this area?

Vincent Pugliese 14:42
Yeah, it’s a great question. Because, you know, we were talking earlier about masterminds like that wasn’t around in 2005 the way it is today, there wasn’t the online community that you can just go I want to be a part of a group of people doing what I want. I’m doing what I want to be doing. So we relied on books a lot, you know, money wise it was Dave Ramsey. He’s the one that guided us through. But I mean, mindset wise in terms of business, it was people like Seth Godin. I found his books within two months of doing this, and I just consume them. Dan Miller, just people, people that were just thinking differently about this world differently about what the possibilities were, and how to get over the limiting beliefs that we have. And for me, and I’m not sure if there’s anybody for me, it was very much getting going from being selfish to being generous. Because I went from a phase where not faze but a life where, you know, you got to get what you got to get right. You’ve got to do what’s best for you. Sure. And that’s the way the world works. And then you meet somebody like Seth, where it’s just like, generosity will get everybody with Ben Ziegler. You know, you have anything in life you want. If you just help enough other people get what they want.

Brad Miller 15:54
Sure. And that that message of how you become fed and how you receive Abundance at a generosity is such an anathema to as a lot of the thinking we have, which is geared around lack and needy what you can and it just, you know that consumption type mentality. So they had to break some patterns for you. They’re

Vincent Pugliese 16:14
totally you know, and I came from a doggy dog world of New York, you know, in terms of what you’re shooting, I was a photographer there and it was no, it wasn’t very many people helping each other out. There wasn’t a lot like if you went to be helpful people looked at you with a really kinda like, what do you What’s your angle? Yeah. And so this so this is my mission now is to make the business world a better place.

Brad Miller 16:36
Awesome, awesome. Me too much relationship with how did your wife used to visit two people that I heard you say were supportive of you in this process and your dad and your wife who joined you and your endeavors? Yeah, I’d like to hear a little bit about how those relationships worked, how you worked with those relationships, or any others that came into your life. To help you break through and move forward, because anytime you start something new when you have, you know, all the adversity I had a new baby and all this type of thing as well. You got to have challenges to things, things don’t always go smoothly. How did your relationship with your wife or others come into play and help you get through all this process?

Vincent Pugliese 17:16
It all honestly was a very lonely existence. It was my wife and I, my dad was there at those moments, you know, at those that moment when I was 22, and that moment, I was 32. But we always had a strained relationship. We never were so much alike, that we never got each other. I mean, even to now, it’s not the greatest. It’s just not. But that’s life. It happens with my wife. She’s the greatest because she was the one person that believed in me, and we believed in each other. And that was the key to all this. We’ve run multiple businesses together. We went to college together, and it wouldn’t be this way. Without her she didn’t believe in me. And she didn’t believe in this and she was skeptical in the beginning. She also had An employee mindset. So I was the one pushing, let’s get out of debt. Let’s start a business and she went along with me, because I could be bullheaded. So I’m kind of hard not to go along with something like that, like, we’re going to do this. But she was supportive. And then once she saw that we could actually even the slightest sign that we could actually do that. We were locked in. And that was the relationship that did it.

Brad Miller 18:23
So having a win helped it having some sort of affirmation and when helped you with with her and and with moving forward in that that’s that’s a great thing.

Vincent Pugliese 18:33
Well, of course, because you I showed no sign of being the person that was going to do this. So she wasn’t like, Oh, I just trust you. I know it’s gonna work. She couldn’t.

Brad Miller 18:45
You kind of shocked her did yeah.

Vincent Pugliese 18:48
Yeah, I mean, what when this started working, it just it was a different world like wait a second, I’m in control of this. And I think I’ve always battled that my life because I want to control so I didn’t like school, and I didn’t get it. So I always want wanting to play by my own rules since I was five years old. That’s why school and work for somebody else never worked. I so once I was able to run the show, for lack of a better term, now I can make it’s it’s always worked that way. That’s great. That’s great.

Brad Miller 19:15
Well, it’s a, these are some of the parts of your story. And yet one of the things I’ve found out about you and learned about you is you’ve been able to interpret this transition that you’ve been made in order to speak into the life of other people and you have a book about called freelance to freedom and your and your podcast is the total total life freedom podcast. So you are really focusing on freedom and how you need to make these decisions here. What are some of the does, what do you teach people when people come to you now, you know, you said there was a world out there when you first started in 2005 or so lonely existence that has to be now and I know that you’re a part of being helpful to other people. What are some disciplines that you teach people, what are some processes? What are some options that you’re able to speak into people’s lives? Now that you’re helpful to them to help people who are stuck, for whatever reason, and their life to break out of that and move forward.

Vincent Pugliese 20:13
I bring people honesty. And I bring them questions that other people don’t ask them that are difficult.

Brad Miller 20:22
I made an example what you’re talking about.

Vincent Pugliese 20:25
I think a lot of people aren’t honest with people in these situations. I’m going to write a book, you know, I’m doing this thing, but I’m gonna go write a book about yoga. Yeah, that’s a great idea. You should go do that. And I’m the one that’s like, Are you crazy? Like you’re on this path, and this is working well, and you’re going to divert your attention to something because other people think you should do it. And then they’re like, wait, what do you know, we’ll talk about that. Because truly focusing on what you’re going to do, and eliminating all the other distractions isn’t is so important. And fear stops people from doing that stuff. You’re a failure. So they divert to all these different things because nothing really is going to follow Through, I’m trying my hand in this. So I just challenged people on this stuff and on their limiting beliefs and on what they’re afraid of, to really get to what the answer of what, what it really is that they want, and what it is that they’re really afraid of. And once you break through that, the answers are completely different.

Brad Miller 21:16
And then you can go from there. Yeah. So you’re not afraid to challenge people, our events. That’s my job.

Vincent Pugliese 21:21
That is my job. If I just go along with it, I’m not doing anybody. I’m not doing any of these. I think I am more than happy to lose clients over more than happy.

Brad Miller 21:32
That’s where that little bit that New York edge comes into play here doesn’t that that’s awesome. I love it.

Vincent Pugliese 21:36
Because it’s not about me. It’s about them. And I don’t want to challenge people and we just want to be status quo. That’s not doing it’s not helping anybody. It’s not helping our group, because there’s not growth going on. And it’s not helping them. It’s not even if they’re paying me I don’t feel right. I’d rather you get pissed at me and quit, but make you think and a year. Now you come back and that goes the best thing that happened. Or you go through the growth right now. But one way the other something you need to make progress,

Brad Miller 22:08
whether it’s I find Vance is that a lot of people will get stuck in. I sometimes call it the malaise of mediocrity where people get kind of in this, you know, just going through the motions, they’re going through things. And they don’t think they can break break through that. And they get complacent and almost contented that even though they’re miserable, but they still are in this place of meaning less ness in life. And in order to get the meaningfulness of life, you got to break some patterns, you got to do things dramatically different you know, I’ll give you one example in my life about 1012 years ago, I lost like 100 pounds in order to do that, you know, I’m still got a skinny guy today if I need me. To do that, I had to have some major mind shifts, some major physical health shifts, and some major support system from some other people and that was important thing for me. Give me an example of when you’re speaking as people, you work with mastermind groups now and others Now, I’d like to hear about example of somebody that you’ve had some influence your life who really did make some pretty profound shifts. To me about an example of somebody in your life. Who have you been impactful on

Vincent Pugliese 23:15
all this? Great question. Um, well, we have one guy, Jim Adams. Zach is brilliant guys. 32 years old. He is a he’s at the point where I started writing my book. And he is so close to so many breakthroughs. But he came into the group and we get a lot of there’s like a 10 year plan for his real estate to take him out of his job. And for the first phone call, like I’m like, why 10 years? And that was just something he made up in his head. Like, why can’t you do this in a year. So that was the first call that we had together first or second call. So now a year later, he is this close to going he’s got 20 something real estate properties. He’s got the plan in place. They just had their second baby which is which is them down from quitting. But he is I mean, we have a call and an hour. And I wouldn’t be surprised if any of these weeks he is on his own. Yeah. So it’s pushing and he just said like that push. And there’s another guy named Greg, who we did a we do these one day masterminds, which I love and you know, around the country, a full day eight people just we just dive in. It was guy Greg, and he came to it. And he’s in a full time job he hates, he hates the commute. He does Facebook ads on the side. And he built up his business to where it was 75% of what he needed to live. But he put this higher number of what he thought he needed to make you want an equal a salary, like why do you need to equal your salary to quit? How much do you need to live on? And a little bit more? So literally at the one that he wrote all the numbers out, and he just smacks himself in the face. And we’re like what he goes, the number that I need to live is about 1500 dollars shy of what I’m making in my side business. Wow. And I said to him, I was like so if you can make this much money in the mornings and evenings while working a full time job. commuting, you’re telling me you can’t make 15% more when you put that 15 that 50 hours back into your into your work day. And, and three months ago, he quit his job and he’s like, I will never, ever go now he wants to teach this other people. So that’s what’s so much fun about this.

Brad Miller 25:16
That’s awesome. That’s awesome. So you’re teaching some, you’re actually, you know, crunching some numbers or doing some other things, and giving some people some disciplines to break through to break through. Yeah, yeah, that’s awesome. Tell me a level about any of these. It let’s just say that some of our listeners are our podcasts are looking for that breakthrough now, like you did with Adam and with Greg, what are just a couple of things that they could learn either from your book or for you now. So just was they could do right now to help them move from wherever they’re at to where they want to go.

Vincent Pugliese 25:49
Yeah, I mean, there’s there’s subtle ones, which I truly believe in, which is I’m always striving to be better than yesterday. And that’s a huge thing for me simply because when I don’t think that way, and I think Bank, for instance, oh, I need to have this much money or this much work by this date, that can be really overwhelming to certain personalities, and they shut down. It’s scary. It’s overwhelming. But if you think better than yesterday, I need to reach out and connect with 10 people today. Every day. That’s what I need. And if I do that over a year, all these things happen. I don’t worry about yesterday anymore. It doesn’t matter. That’s past and I don’t worry about tomorrow, you become laser focused on the things that you need to do today. And then that if it’s Darren Hardy, the compound effect, over and over the small things that you don’t see any results for a year to a year and a half, all of a sudden you start exploding. And we use that in our life. Consider everything. What is the hack? The hack is consistency. You know, Seth Godin says he goes, I wrote 10,000 blog posts, none of them went viral. I just wrote 10,000 blog posts in a row. That’s why I do a daily podcast, consistency and growth. The other thing is you need to be able to pinpoint what you want your life to look like and take bold action. To do that, so that you you upset the apple cart, you change your patterns so that you realize the light of the world and and when I did that, yeah, and those are two out to MF

Brad Miller 27:12
There you go. And most changes that happen incrementally does it? You gotta go if you’re gonna change, you gotta do it. Yeah, really go for it. And that that’s great. Well, lots of great tips and lots of great things from your book and, and people can learn from that. And here’s one of the great things to share here today is your books. An audio version is free, isn’t it?

Vincent Pugliese 27:31
Yeah. You know, it was the The advice I got from Seth Godin and john Lee Dumas, who I’m in a mastermind with and was like, why don’t you just record the audio book and give away if you want to get the word out? Just and I was I love it. So I went through the path of painstaking testing, recording it four times to get it right. So listen to my voice for 20 hours. It’s not fun. But we did it. So it’s available for anybody that’s listening. If they want to download it’s totally free. On our website, total total freedom.com slash FQF book ticket. Just download book for free.

Brad Miller 28:00
That’s great. And they can also get other great insights from your daily, your daily podcast, the total life freedom podcast, and you can get some great insights there. So what are you learning for who you learn from these days? What books are you reading? what people are you listening and learning from these days? They’re feeding you now.

Vincent Pugliese 28:22
That’s a great question. The mastermind with john has been huge. He challenges my limiting beliefs. You always need somebody that’s doing what you want to do, to push you and to have accountability. JOHN Lee Dumas is a big help Pat Flynn’s new book super fans is wonderful for anybody in this space. Just read that over the weekend myself. Yeah, yeah, we got to see him at podcast movement. That’ll be, which was fantastic. So those are two things right now. And what’s funny is I’m in less consumption mode. And I’m much more in content creation mode. Once you get focused on what you’re doing. I try to tune a lot out and just focus on a handful of people that are helping me and then just keep creating so I can help other people. Great. And so ultimately, it’s about You gotta want that freedom don’t you? You gotta desire and that burning desire for freedom, it has to be more important to you than what you have now. Not to be able to willing to give up the good so you can go to what we would consider to be the great

Brad Miller 29:12
Yeah, good to great thinking that’s what I went to. One of the ways that I love to put things down you gotta understand that that passion for the great has to overcome the the good, so appreciate you you you got some great things here and if you so if you want freedom in your life, your time your money, location, your freedom. If you really want it you got to go for it. Some great insights here from from Pittsburgh Lisi appreciate you being our guest today Vincent on the pathway to promise podcast.

Vincent Pugliese 29:42
Thank you so much, Brad. Appreciate it.

Brad Miller 29:45
Awesome to have Vincent Bugliosi from freelance to freedom the book that’s a free audio book, you can get it his website, which is total life freedom.com go there and pick up that free audio book and also check out the other resources that he has They’re on on his website. Of course episodes of his podcasts are going to be helpful to you as well. If you want to have freedom in your life, he chose to go become a freelancer to break the patterns of an established workplace and to become a freelancer and eventually established him as an author and a podcaster and heavy other resources that he makes available for people who want to break free as well. So my question to you my friends is what do you want to do in your in your life? What promises Can you make to your life? What promises Can you make to make a promise to have freedom in your life to keep your promises and in the experience the power of a promise kept? We invite you to do that. Follow the examples events it we’ve got some other great teachers on our on our podcast website, which is pathway promise calm, and we teach you about a process called the 40 day way where you could move through over and around and through adversity in your life to achieve your promise life. But Vincent might say is your freedom life, your promise life of peace. Its peace of mind prosperity, which includes financial prosperity and includes health and vitality, and purpose, which is having a purpose or reason to live. You can do it I know that you can use some of the helpful tools we have here for you on a pathway to promise calm and make a commitment to yourself. Promise to yourself to make a promise. Keep a promise and enjoy the power of a promise kept. So till next time friends. Here in the pathway to promise podcast This is Dr. Brad Miller encouraging you to keep your promises because indeed there is power in a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com. Until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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