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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 90. Elevate your attitude.

Vincent Pugliese 0:10
Hey everyone, this has been subleasing from the total life freedom podcast. If you are looking for peace, prosperity and purpose in your life, the pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is the place to be.

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You’re on the pathway to a promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Bradley’s every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad.

Hello, good people and welcome to pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. It is

Awesome that you have chosen to spend a few moments with me today, as we have a conversation just you and I about some things that matter including your attitude and mind. We’re going to talk today about elevating your attitude, and how that makes all the difference in the world. Here at the pathway to promise podcast we’re all about helping you to overcome any adversity in your life, to achieve what we believe, is your God given promised life, peace, prosperity and purpose. We believe God has intentions for you which are nothing but good. Nothing but good. But we in our lives can sometimes be sidelined by an adverse condition might be a death in the family, it might be losing a job, it might be a breakup of a romance, it might be a financial reversal. It could be a diagnosis of a bad disease like cancer, all kinds of things can happen and they happen All of us but how you deal with it makes a difference, and a pathway promise. com our website, we’ve got lots of episodes of great teachers and leaders who give us insights of how to overcome some adverse condition to achieve success in your life. We like to call it the promise life, the promise life of peace, prosperity and purpose. So check us out we got a free gift for you there at our website, as well pathway promise.com attitude. I’ve been privileged on a number of occasions, to visit folks in difficult circumstances, including in prisons. I remember visiting and a juvenile center one time a juvenile detention center. And one of the administrators there said something to me to effective Well, all these kids in need is an attitude adjustment. Well, I took that to mean that there needed to be in their mind at least somehow Side forced to pressure them, I took it as a bit of a negative. Whereas I know that with a young person who I was visiting and other people need on not only a positive pressure from the outside, but they need to be encouraged to elevate their attitudes about themselves. And I want to encourage you to think now about raising the level of your personal attitude. Think about with me for a moment about somebody in your life who you admire. This might be somebody you know, personally, or might be an author or a leader. It might be a movie star or a musician, or might be a writer, or a podcaster. Or a pastor. Somebody that you admire. Why do you admire them? What is it about them that gets your interest? Is it their tenacity? Is that their talent? Is it their faith? Is it their commitment Is that how they explain things? Is it their countenance? Is it that they’re fun to be with? Or they’re transparent or they are inspirational? What is it about them? I bet a lot of it has to do with their attitude. I bet a lot of it has to do with the attitude which they exude from their life, which impacts all the people who they influence, which includes you, which includes you. So, think about that. The attitude of someone is influencing you and lifted up your life or else you wouldn’t admire them. And how now can we take that same thing and take our own attitude, it elevated in such a way to be fulfilled ourselves, which is what we’re talking about here, as well as be inspirational and helpful to other people. I think you can do it. I know you can. William James, a writer said this the greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude of mind. This means friends, you can choose to alter or adjust, if you will, your attitude. If we want to do it,

if we think about it, our attitude affects our outcome. If we go into something thinking that we can do it, and believing we can do over are much more likely to succeed than to go into some endeavor, and thinking we can’t do it, but battle is one before the battle has begun. I’ve heard it said. So here’s what I want to give you a bit of an attitude checklist before you enter into an endeavor. Let’s just say you’re going to go into a new project or to start a new new job. So watch this attitude. You know what, I gotta wait and see, I guess. gotta see how this thing goes. I gotta feel it out. isn’t a negative attitude? I don’t really want to do this. I don’t want to do this. Are there certain new experiences that kind of automatically make you feel negative? If they are identified and you know, some people, I went to the dentist recently and we kind of joked around about how some people just don’t like go to the dentist. And there’s a fear of that. Well, what your attitude towards whatever it is, and then think about that and how you can maybe change that. Now does our attitude that affect us in what we feel about our job or about our family or about God? And if so, how can we fix it? How can we do something about that? You see, friends, I believe, if we fix our mind what is possible, not just on the problems that can be happening, or when we fix your mind on the facts, not just on our feelings that can have an impact on how things come out.

A second thought here is an attitude towards People perseveres are predetermine, or attitudes, their attitudes towards me. That is, oftentimes when we how we share about other people is reflected right back to us. I think that’s the case, don’t you? If someone greet you with a smile and a good high energy word, that we just react to them differently, then then we do otherwise are in this makes a difference. However, just this morning, one of the habits that I have is I address most people I encounter whether they be a child or an older person, as young man or young woman. And today, just this morning, I happened to be in a local place getting my car worked on. And there was a gentleman coming out as I was coming in, he was gray hair and a beard. So one night he just held the door for me and I said, Well, thank you young man. And he turned around and did a pivot towards me young I’m 70 years old. What do you mean young man? And I said to him, Well, you, apparently Do you feel offended by that? And he said, No, I don’t feel offended by that. I just feel surprised. And people often feel that way when we call them young. See friends, it makes a difference. He’s going to remember that. Also today, I got a phone call from somebody who just out of the blue, called me and just said they want to pray for me. And that made me feel so good that they wanted to pray for me. So already today, I have had experiences where my attitude has had apparently a positive impact on somebody else got their attention, and someone else’s attitude. upgrade for me has got my attention. Yeah, I heard it’s been said. The Stanford Research folks did a survey that talked about a person’s success at their job, but the work is 30% knowledge about the product, or the service and 87% knowledge about people about relationships. That’s important. Let’s talk about some ways that you can intentionally elevate your attitude, especially in regards to other people. Number one thing that you can do in regards to other people is be very intentional about remembering their name. If a person has a name tag, use it, read their name, if you hear somebody’s name repeated in your head a few times, or try to connect it with some other memory trigger that you can have. Also, another thing that we can do with with other people is request their help. You know, nothing makes the other person feel more important and to do something for you, that you cannot do for yourself. Think about that. Even in like a retail store, where someone helps you to shop for something to Christmas time. When I go shopping for my wife or my kids. I often especially if it’s a clothing item, I almost always ask someone to Help me with a selection or purpose in they are almost always, genuinely happy to be asked to help. A third thing you can do for with other people is to recognize them recognize their potential. And that is having a great expectation that they can do well. So, and then being introspective about who they are as a people. So recognize it, lift somebody up, and they’ll be recognized for who they are. Recently, I encountered a young person, a teenager, and I asked him to serve on a on a planning board that I’m working on in my local church, and they were thrilled about being asked and being recognized as a young person to take on a more adult responsibility. Another thing we can do is reward people for their efforts. Our reward might be the same Thank you, where it might be a card, where maybe a handshake, where might be something else more, more deeper than that. reward people show people their potential, encourage them, fulfill help them know that they are that they are appreciated. These are when we do these things for other people that will help us. You see, our attitude is the difference between success and failure for many of us, but also in the attitude we express towards others is often the difference between success and failure in the organization’s or the groups that we we are part of the guess where it starts starts with us. So our attitudes can turn problems into blessings and just how we look at it. When we have an attitude of how can I get this done? Instead of letting this block me, we can net we understand that the problem is not the problem. Our process is this needs to be adjusted. You see, we understand that there’s a problem. We recognize it. Then we need to break it down, kind of critique it. See what we need to do about it. Then we can choose what the next steps are to deal with it. And we can get good about it. So yeah, when you give, when you have a good attitude, France, it gives you an uncommon perspective, a perspective that looks kind of from the outside in and helps you see what is possible. And that way our attitude can be our best friend or our worst enemy. You see, friends, I just want to encourage you to have an attitude that makes a difference in your life, and the life of other people that can make a big a big difference. You see,

oftentimes, friends, ultimately, it’s our attitudes about things, not our achievements, which make us happy. And I will dwell on this for a second because I’ve been privileged to be around a lot of people the end of their life. I’ve preached probably well over 200 funerals in my life and my career. And one of the things I’ve often noticed about people when they talk about People at the end of their life is very rarely do they say that he or she became vice president of the company they were part of, or that here, she drove a Cadillac or he she made this much money, they would talk about how they treat other people. They would talk about relationships, they would talk about the things they did to serve other people, or how they would bring joy to other people, or how they would help improve the lives of other people. It’s not about achievement. It’s about attitude. And here’s the other thing, friends just want to kind of want to leave you with this. We choose what we do about our attitude, or attitude will change when we want it to change. And that just means we have to understand the importance of attitude and making that a part of our life. Don’t blame others. You know, we choose our attitude. And let me encourage you to be about that. Say our attitudes need to be good. Haley tweaked and adjusted because life happens does it circumstances happen. So we need to be constantly fed, fill yourself with Good stuff, good books, start with the Bible, if you will. But a good books good encouraging tapes, podcast, other things that help fill your life, and most importantly, encouraging people in your life that will help you when you have that. And I invite you to be just that if we can be helpful to you here at the pathway to promise podcast we want to do just that, to help to elevate your attitude to help you deal with adversity, Francis because adversity is one of those circumstances which can beat us up and bring us down and you need a process in order to get through that. We have a 40 day way process we’re working on we have a book coming out sometime the next few months about the promise given life which will be helpful to you. Meanwhile, on our podcast, your pathway a pathway to promise and pathway promised com you can hear great teachers from myself and from smothers great leaders and authors and teachers, who have something to say to your life, to pour into your life, to help you to elevate your attitude and make your life better, and help us to deal with those problems, those adversities that we have, we’re here to be helpful. We hope that we can go to our website pathway promise com, we got a free gift for you there that which will be helpful to you. And we got more episodes of the pathway to promise podcast upcoming with some great interviews with some folks who will speak deeply into your life. So until next time, friends, this is Dr. Brad Miller, I want to encourage you to keep your promises because there’s power in a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise but Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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Brad Miller 0:00
pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller Episode Number 89. Total Life freedom with the author of Freelancer freedom, Vincent pick Lacey.

Jeff Sanders 0:14
This is Jeff Sanders, author of the free time formula, helping busy people find happiness, focus and productivity. My friend Dr. Brad Miller will help you find your promise life of peace, prosperity and purpose. Right here on the pathway to promise podcast.

Brad Miller 0:32
You’re on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Brad leaves every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the path Wait a promise. Now here’s Brad. Hello Good people. Welcome to pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. It’s awesome to have you here with me today as we talk about things that matter. Something that matters a lot is having fulfillment and freedom in your life. And what if you don’t have that? What if your job isn’t fulfilling? What if you’re financially stressed? What if there are stresses in your family relationships and your marriage and in your with your children and with your parents, with her stress everywhere that’s causing you to feel compressed and stressed? Or all through today Vincent Lacey is going to be sharing with us freedom is the author of freelance to freedom and he’s going to be sharing with us what what he what he did in his life when he thought constricted and all these areas. Great the pathway to promise podcast we are all about helping you to overcome stresses in your Life, whether it’s the pressure of debt that’s crushing you, or maybe you are not fulfilled in the workplace, maybe you’ve got depression. Or maybe you’ve experienced a death in the family or perhaps you’ve had a diagnosis of some something bad like a disease, cancer or something. Maybe relationship is messed up divorce. Whatever it is, we’re here to be helpful to you on the pathway to promise podcast, we teach and we lead about a process to help you discover your God given promise, life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. And we do so by teaching about that and also by sharing with great guests like we have today. You can always go to our website pathway a promise com, find out more about us find back issues of the podcast, and also some other helpful tools for you there to help you overcome adversity and achieve your life a peace, prosperity, and purpose. When the ways we do that is talking to great people like Vincent pick Lacey. Listen, I have to things in common. We both spent some time living in Evansville, Indiana. We had different paths there. He was a photographer for the local newspaper, and award winning photographer. And I was a pastor of a church there. And, but he also found himself in a situation where he was winning awards for his photography. He was successful in his career. But it wasn’t working and other aspects of his life, including financially. And he didn’t feel like he had the flexibility in the freedom that he really wanted to have to spend time with his children, to be involved with his spouse, and to have freedom in his life to have what he really wanted to do to have quality in his life. So that’s what I wanted to talk to you today. What we want to talk about today, here is having quality comes in your life and doing whatever it takes to break some patterns to have freedom. You’re gonna love this interview we have here today with Lacey from the total life of Freedom podcast and the author of freelance to freedom. And our guest today is an author and a podcaster bits of big Lacey. He is all about people who desire freedom in their life, to do the work, they love to thrive financially, to control your time, to own your own business to own your own life. And he has several methods and things that he’s done in his life. To help him do that. He has a free he has a book called freelance to freedom. We’ll say more about that in a little bit and a podcast called the total life freedom podcast. It’s all about freedom with Vincent. Vincent, welcome to pathway to promise. Thank you so much. I appreciate you having me here. It’s awesome to have you here. Vance. love what you have to share about heavy freedom in your life and I’ve seen your work and other aspects of we’ll talk about what you’re doing now. But I first got acquainted with you as a photographer in my hometown newspaper of Evansville, Indiana, and I saw your work then So what I’d like to hear a little bit about you is just little bit about your life kind of got you from a small city photographer and you can say more about that to what you are now a leader of a dynamic business and author of podcaster Tim a little bit about your story my friend

Vincent Pugliese 5:16
Yeah, there’s there’s a lot of layers to it in terms of like, you know, what adversity there’s, it seems like it happened in every every stage. That’s why some people aspect what is the How did you get through it? It depends on which part of the story you ask, right? For me, in the beginning, I was a terrible student. I was lost. So the people that didn’t do well in school and wanted to do something later on in life. I’m kind of, you know, something that went through that because I just learned on the day before graduation, that I was even graduated from high school. I was arrested when I was 18 years old for stealing. I had no moral compass, really rough time in my life. And that went on till I was 22 years old when really I had a nightmare that I got caught stealing again. I was living with my parents again, and I went downstairs to just kind of comment contemplate was the first time I ever said to myself, like, what are you doing with your life? And I, you know, my dad came downstairs and me my dad didn’t get along, as you could imagine, because I wouldn’t get along with me at that point. But he said to me goes, What’s wrong? And I said, I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. And he very simply was just your two o’clock in the morning. Well, you like taking pictures, you like sports, that’s all I did was watch sports or, or listen to music. It’s like, why don’t you take a photography class, you could maybe be a sports photographer. And, you know, a couple years earlier, I just realized, you know, I have nothing to lose anymore. Because I had nothing to gain. There was no, no, there was no expectations. So I thought, I’m going to go all in and that’s when I just I decided I bought a camera. The next day, I signed up to community college, to learn, you know, something about photography, which I didn’t know much about. And I said, for the first time, like, I am dedicated, I’m going to do this. And a year later, I was shooting professional sports. I wasn’t making much money, but I was doing what I love to do for the first time. And that’s what led to a 20 something year career in that.

Brad Miller 6:58
Yeah, it’s so you found you’re passionate about and love to do. And that led you to a career in sports photography. And but there’s somewhere along the line, things didn’t quite work out in that part of your life in your professional life as a photographer, and that led you to go some different directions. You ran into some adversity, the theme of what our podcast is about is helping people overcome adversity. So share a little bit of that part of the story where you run into some blocks and some things you had to overcome.

Vincent Pugliese 7:24
Yeah, we were kind of normally I’d gotten out of it. You know, my school days were behind me. I was. I was named William Randolph Hearst national photographer the year out of college. So I was the top college student, which is the opposite when I was in high school, met my awesome wife at college at Ohio University and got jobs in Evansville. So but we became normal. We both got staff jobs right out of college. And unlike before now, I got complacent. We, we got a mortgage. I got a car payment. We had student loans. We started buying stuff on credit card, we became just like everybody else. We became real my real life. He did that. Yo, it didn’t hit as much as I went after it. Yeah, okay, gotcha. Nobody made me do it. I just basically decided to be like everybody else, which is not me. And so what happened was, I was, you know, shooting post pro sports. So from Evansville, I was going to St. Louis to shoot the Rams games back when they were the best team and football and the Titans and, you know, I really aggressive in terms of shooting these things. And I won international sports photographer the year, which is the biggest award, you could win in my field. And at the same time, I want it Elizabeth won a major award, the same competition. And we got flown to Washington, DC to National Geographic for the award ceremony. Really big deal. At the same time, Elizabeth got pregnant with our first son, we were married a year, two years earlier. So it all came down. Andrew is now 14. He’s one month from being born. I just win this award. And everybody’s like, Oh, this is when you get your raise because I was only making $32,000 a year. But I was you know, considered one of the top so I’ll went to my boss for the for the interview in terms of what, in terms of the rays. And he said to me, You know you had your best year ever. I know you have the baby coming blah, blah, blah, but the best we could do is give you 3%.

Brad Miller 9:12
You know, that’s,

Vincent Pugliese 9:13
that’s things. And it’s one of those things where you just go. And I said to him, I said no matter what I do, because I work 20 hours overtime every week to make sure that photography was fantastic. We all did, we went above and beyond. I said to him, no matter what I do, no matter how hard I work, no matter how many awards, I win, I just stopped myself. And this is my dream career. Now this is like this is the thing I’ve been fighting for for 10 years. And I remember just sitting there and saying it’s over. I can’t do this, because I’ve got a baby on the way. And I looked out into the newsroom I saw and it just hit me how disgruntled so many people were.

Brad Miller 9:50
You had an aha moment in you

Vincent Pugliese 9:52
total aha moment where you realize all the stuff that you’ve been hearing now it makes sense. Now it makes sense. It’s like I don’t want to be 65 complaining about my job and struggling with money. And so I went home, I was really, you know, supposed to be working. I just left. And I called my dad to see if I could do some work for him. And he said, No. See my dad.

Brad Miller 10:14
That hurts to desert. My goodness. It so

Vincent Pugliese 10:16
that’s that moment I still remember like was yesterday but he said something that changed my life. He said, I’ve been trying to tell you this for years, you haven’t listened. Maybe you listen this time. He said, You have a skill, but you’re not using it correctly. And I’m listening. I’m like, What do you mean? you’re settling for 30 years, you become a really good photographer you didn’t used to be, but you worked really hard. You became that but you’re settling for $32,000 a year and benefits. Where you can go shoot sports, you can go shoot weddings, you can go shoot commercial work, you can make as much money as you want to make and control your schedule. But you’re settling for this and hear your dad say that well, usually your parents push you towards something more safe. Right? And that was the way my mom was very, you know You had a government job slow and steady. And we decided that day to start a business. And it was also though

Brad Miller 11:05
he’s telling you not settle. That’s awesome. That’s an awesome thing. And, and you heard it and you get something about it. Did you? What were some of the actions that you took to not settle?

Vincent Pugliese 11:15
Immediately? I started calling photographers in the phone book. You remember the phone book? I Oh, yeah. That Susan got the phone. And every one of them turned me down. Can I be an assistant? Can I be a second shooter? They all turned me down. They knew I was they’d seen me in the newspaper. I’ve been there for five years, four years. And finally, I just took the phone book and I threw it against the wall. And I was like, you know, you always hear like, if you can’t beat them, join them. I was like, Well, you can’t join them. We’re gonna beat them. So that’s literally how it started not knowing anything about business. So whenever people say like, I don’t know anything about business. I’m not a business person. I’m not not. Neither were we. We were employees. And but we had to if we wanted the life of freedom that we wanted, we need to get uncomfortable and do that. Yeah.

Brad Miller 11:56
So what were somebody So you started this business? So we’re doing like wedding. So this type of thing. Yeah, we start with the weddings, because

Vincent Pugliese 12:03
we figured we can get the Saturdays. We can make more money in short amount of time. And we can take our journalism background and just bring that to weddings. So everybody like

Brad Miller 12:14
your wife was with you on the Yeah, she’s a

Vincent Pugliese 12:17
better photographer than I am. Yeah. So I just downplayed the story so much, because we just keep talking about these things. But she’s a phenomenal photographer, but she also wasn’t into the business idea. So we need to go into this with a with a baby on the way, by the way, right? She’s about to birth. And we booked our first wedding a week before Andrew was born. We didn’t know at

Brad Miller 12:37
the end, you had to have a transformation of your mindset that didn’t events, you had to transform from a kind of a corporate gig type of thing to business and entrepreneurial type of thing immediately from employee to entrepreneur. And now what do I read? What do I study? Did you leave your job immediately?

Vincent Pugliese 12:54
No, we weren’t that bold. Looking back. As soon as everything what would you do different And I would have invested in myself more, instead of being so scarce with our money, even though we paid out our debt in three years, but I would have, I would have quit sooner knowing what the potential was, but we didn’t know. So I was scared.

Brad Miller 13:17
You know, there’s that unknown factor. And, you know, as such, there’s such a tug. Also, when you’re in the corporate world, when you’re in the world, when most of us are there’s such that tug, almost that magnetic thing to keep you there in that world. Oh, including,

Vincent Pugliese 13:34
including your co workers were crazy to go start a business. They’re all not doing it. Why would you? Why wouldn’t you just be happy with what you have? Right? Just be happy you have a job. And, and I didn’t want that. Oh,

Brad Miller 13:45
that sounds like settling, doesn’t it?

Vincent Pugliese 13:47
It absolutely sounds like that’s what everybody wants you to do. Because I think if you go and do it, it shines a light on them that they didn’t do it.

Brad Miller 13:55
Sure. Sure. And the with the with the risk does come The possibility of failure, but also comes the possibility of success and reward. So, tell me a little bit about some of the processes that you did kind of on the, I want to delve a little bit further with you that’s on this area of this inner work of mindset change that you had and what, what happened to what kind of work did you have to do in this mindset change? I know you said you had to take action immediately. But what kind of inner work did you do? Did you look for books? Did you look for tapes? Did you look for a any kind of spiritual insight? Did you? Where did you go to feed yourself in this area?

Vincent Pugliese 14:42
Yeah, it’s a great question. Because, you know, we were talking earlier about masterminds like that wasn’t around in 2005 the way it is today, there wasn’t the online community that you can just go I want to be a part of a group of people doing what I want. I’m doing what I want to be doing. So we relied on books a lot, you know, money wise it was Dave Ramsey. He’s the one that guided us through. But I mean, mindset wise in terms of business, it was people like Seth Godin. I found his books within two months of doing this, and I just consume them. Dan Miller, just people, people that were just thinking differently about this world differently about what the possibilities were, and how to get over the limiting beliefs that we have. And for me, and I’m not sure if there’s anybody for me, it was very much getting going from being selfish to being generous. Because I went from a phase where not faze but a life where, you know, you got to get what you got to get right. You’ve got to do what’s best for you. Sure. And that’s the way the world works. And then you meet somebody like Seth, where it’s just like, generosity will get everybody with Ben Ziegler. You know, you have anything in life you want. If you just help enough other people get what they want.

Brad Miller 15:54
Sure. And that that message of how you become fed and how you receive Abundance at a generosity is such an anathema to as a lot of the thinking we have, which is geared around lack and needy what you can and it just, you know that consumption type mentality. So they had to break some patterns for you. They’re

Vincent Pugliese 16:14
totally you know, and I came from a doggy dog world of New York, you know, in terms of what you’re shooting, I was a photographer there and it was no, it wasn’t very many people helping each other out. There wasn’t a lot like if you went to be helpful people looked at you with a really kinda like, what do you What’s your angle? Yeah. And so this so this is my mission now is to make the business world a better place.

Brad Miller 16:36
Awesome, awesome. Me too much relationship with how did your wife used to visit two people that I heard you say were supportive of you in this process and your dad and your wife who joined you and your endeavors? Yeah, I’d like to hear a little bit about how those relationships worked, how you worked with those relationships, or any others that came into your life. To help you break through and move forward, because anytime you start something new when you have, you know, all the adversity I had a new baby and all this type of thing as well. You got to have challenges to things, things don’t always go smoothly. How did your relationship with your wife or others come into play and help you get through all this process?

Vincent Pugliese 17:16
It all honestly was a very lonely existence. It was my wife and I, my dad was there at those moments, you know, at those that moment when I was 22, and that moment, I was 32. But we always had a strained relationship. We never were so much alike, that we never got each other. I mean, even to now, it’s not the greatest. It’s just not. But that’s life. It happens with my wife. She’s the greatest because she was the one person that believed in me, and we believed in each other. And that was the key to all this. We’ve run multiple businesses together. We went to college together, and it wouldn’t be this way. Without her she didn’t believe in me. And she didn’t believe in this and she was skeptical in the beginning. She also had An employee mindset. So I was the one pushing, let’s get out of debt. Let’s start a business and she went along with me, because I could be bullheaded. So I’m kind of hard not to go along with something like that, like, we’re going to do this. But she was supportive. And then once she saw that we could actually even the slightest sign that we could actually do that. We were locked in. And that was the relationship that did it.

Brad Miller 18:23
So having a win helped it having some sort of affirmation and when helped you with with her and and with moving forward in that that’s that’s a great thing.

Vincent Pugliese 18:33
Well, of course, because you I showed no sign of being the person that was going to do this. So she wasn’t like, Oh, I just trust you. I know it’s gonna work. She couldn’t.

Brad Miller 18:45
You kind of shocked her did yeah.

Vincent Pugliese 18:48
Yeah, I mean, what when this started working, it just it was a different world like wait a second, I’m in control of this. And I think I’ve always battled that my life because I want to control so I didn’t like school, and I didn’t get it. So I always want wanting to play by my own rules since I was five years old. That’s why school and work for somebody else never worked. I so once I was able to run the show, for lack of a better term, now I can make it’s it’s always worked that way. That’s great. That’s great.

Brad Miller 19:15
Well, it’s a, these are some of the parts of your story. And yet one of the things I’ve found out about you and learned about you is you’ve been able to interpret this transition that you’ve been made in order to speak into the life of other people and you have a book about called freelance to freedom and your and your podcast is the total total life freedom podcast. So you are really focusing on freedom and how you need to make these decisions here. What are some of the does, what do you teach people when people come to you now, you know, you said there was a world out there when you first started in 2005 or so lonely existence that has to be now and I know that you’re a part of being helpful to other people. What are some disciplines that you teach people, what are some processes? What are some options that you’re able to speak into people’s lives? Now that you’re helpful to them to help people who are stuck, for whatever reason, and their life to break out of that and move forward.

Vincent Pugliese 20:13
I bring people honesty. And I bring them questions that other people don’t ask them that are difficult.

Brad Miller 20:22
I made an example what you’re talking about.

Vincent Pugliese 20:25
I think a lot of people aren’t honest with people in these situations. I’m going to write a book, you know, I’m doing this thing, but I’m gonna go write a book about yoga. Yeah, that’s a great idea. You should go do that. And I’m the one that’s like, Are you crazy? Like you’re on this path, and this is working well, and you’re going to divert your attention to something because other people think you should do it. And then they’re like, wait, what do you know, we’ll talk about that. Because truly focusing on what you’re going to do, and eliminating all the other distractions isn’t is so important. And fear stops people from doing that stuff. You’re a failure. So they divert to all these different things because nothing really is going to follow Through, I’m trying my hand in this. So I just challenged people on this stuff and on their limiting beliefs and on what they’re afraid of, to really get to what the answer of what, what it really is that they want, and what it is that they’re really afraid of. And once you break through that, the answers are completely different.

Brad Miller 21:16
And then you can go from there. Yeah. So you’re not afraid to challenge people, our events. That’s my job.

Vincent Pugliese 21:21
That is my job. If I just go along with it, I’m not doing anybody. I’m not doing any of these. I think I am more than happy to lose clients over more than happy.

Brad Miller 21:32
That’s where that little bit that New York edge comes into play here doesn’t that that’s awesome. I love it.

Vincent Pugliese 21:36
Because it’s not about me. It’s about them. And I don’t want to challenge people and we just want to be status quo. That’s not doing it’s not helping anybody. It’s not helping our group, because there’s not growth going on. And it’s not helping them. It’s not even if they’re paying me I don’t feel right. I’d rather you get pissed at me and quit, but make you think and a year. Now you come back and that goes the best thing that happened. Or you go through the growth right now. But one way the other something you need to make progress,

Brad Miller 22:08
whether it’s I find Vance is that a lot of people will get stuck in. I sometimes call it the malaise of mediocrity where people get kind of in this, you know, just going through the motions, they’re going through things. And they don’t think they can break break through that. And they get complacent and almost contented that even though they’re miserable, but they still are in this place of meaning less ness in life. And in order to get the meaningfulness of life, you got to break some patterns, you got to do things dramatically different you know, I’ll give you one example in my life about 1012 years ago, I lost like 100 pounds in order to do that, you know, I’m still got a skinny guy today if I need me. To do that, I had to have some major mind shifts, some major physical health shifts, and some major support system from some other people and that was important thing for me. Give me an example of when you’re speaking as people, you work with mastermind groups now and others Now, I’d like to hear about example of somebody that you’ve had some influence your life who really did make some pretty profound shifts. To me about an example of somebody in your life. Who have you been impactful on

Vincent Pugliese 23:15
all this? Great question. Um, well, we have one guy, Jim Adams. Zach is brilliant guys. 32 years old. He is a he’s at the point where I started writing my book. And he is so close to so many breakthroughs. But he came into the group and we get a lot of there’s like a 10 year plan for his real estate to take him out of his job. And for the first phone call, like I’m like, why 10 years? And that was just something he made up in his head. Like, why can’t you do this in a year. So that was the first call that we had together first or second call. So now a year later, he is this close to going he’s got 20 something real estate properties. He’s got the plan in place. They just had their second baby which is which is them down from quitting. But he is I mean, we have a call and an hour. And I wouldn’t be surprised if any of these weeks he is on his own. Yeah. So it’s pushing and he just said like that push. And there’s another guy named Greg, who we did a we do these one day masterminds, which I love and you know, around the country, a full day eight people just we just dive in. It was guy Greg, and he came to it. And he’s in a full time job he hates, he hates the commute. He does Facebook ads on the side. And he built up his business to where it was 75% of what he needed to live. But he put this higher number of what he thought he needed to make you want an equal a salary, like why do you need to equal your salary to quit? How much do you need to live on? And a little bit more? So literally at the one that he wrote all the numbers out, and he just smacks himself in the face. And we’re like what he goes, the number that I need to live is about 1500 dollars shy of what I’m making in my side business. Wow. And I said to him, I was like so if you can make this much money in the mornings and evenings while working a full time job. commuting, you’re telling me you can’t make 15% more when you put that 15 that 50 hours back into your into your work day. And, and three months ago, he quit his job and he’s like, I will never, ever go now he wants to teach this other people. So that’s what’s so much fun about this.

Brad Miller 25:16
That’s awesome. That’s awesome. So you’re teaching some, you’re actually, you know, crunching some numbers or doing some other things, and giving some people some disciplines to break through to break through. Yeah, yeah, that’s awesome. Tell me a level about any of these. It let’s just say that some of our listeners are our podcasts are looking for that breakthrough now, like you did with Adam and with Greg, what are just a couple of things that they could learn either from your book or for you now. So just was they could do right now to help them move from wherever they’re at to where they want to go.

Vincent Pugliese 25:49
Yeah, I mean, there’s there’s subtle ones, which I truly believe in, which is I’m always striving to be better than yesterday. And that’s a huge thing for me simply because when I don’t think that way, and I think Bank, for instance, oh, I need to have this much money or this much work by this date, that can be really overwhelming to certain personalities, and they shut down. It’s scary. It’s overwhelming. But if you think better than yesterday, I need to reach out and connect with 10 people today. Every day. That’s what I need. And if I do that over a year, all these things happen. I don’t worry about yesterday anymore. It doesn’t matter. That’s past and I don’t worry about tomorrow, you become laser focused on the things that you need to do today. And then that if it’s Darren Hardy, the compound effect, over and over the small things that you don’t see any results for a year to a year and a half, all of a sudden you start exploding. And we use that in our life. Consider everything. What is the hack? The hack is consistency. You know, Seth Godin says he goes, I wrote 10,000 blog posts, none of them went viral. I just wrote 10,000 blog posts in a row. That’s why I do a daily podcast, consistency and growth. The other thing is you need to be able to pinpoint what you want your life to look like and take bold action. To do that, so that you you upset the apple cart, you change your patterns so that you realize the light of the world and and when I did that, yeah, and those are two out to MF

Brad Miller 27:12
There you go. And most changes that happen incrementally does it? You gotta go if you’re gonna change, you gotta do it. Yeah, really go for it. And that that’s great. Well, lots of great tips and lots of great things from your book and, and people can learn from that. And here’s one of the great things to share here today is your books. An audio version is free, isn’t it?

Vincent Pugliese 27:31
Yeah. You know, it was the The advice I got from Seth Godin and john Lee Dumas, who I’m in a mastermind with and was like, why don’t you just record the audio book and give away if you want to get the word out? Just and I was I love it. So I went through the path of painstaking testing, recording it four times to get it right. So listen to my voice for 20 hours. It’s not fun. But we did it. So it’s available for anybody that’s listening. If they want to download it’s totally free. On our website, total total freedom.com slash FQF book ticket. Just download book for free.

Brad Miller 28:00
That’s great. And they can also get other great insights from your daily, your daily podcast, the total life freedom podcast, and you can get some great insights there. So what are you learning for who you learn from these days? What books are you reading? what people are you listening and learning from these days? They’re feeding you now.

Vincent Pugliese 28:22
That’s a great question. The mastermind with john has been huge. He challenges my limiting beliefs. You always need somebody that’s doing what you want to do, to push you and to have accountability. JOHN Lee Dumas is a big help Pat Flynn’s new book super fans is wonderful for anybody in this space. Just read that over the weekend myself. Yeah, yeah, we got to see him at podcast movement. That’ll be, which was fantastic. So those are two things right now. And what’s funny is I’m in less consumption mode. And I’m much more in content creation mode. Once you get focused on what you’re doing. I try to tune a lot out and just focus on a handful of people that are helping me and then just keep creating so I can help other people. Great. And so ultimately, it’s about You gotta want that freedom don’t you? You gotta desire and that burning desire for freedom, it has to be more important to you than what you have now. Not to be able to willing to give up the good so you can go to what we would consider to be the great

Brad Miller 29:12
Yeah, good to great thinking that’s what I went to. One of the ways that I love to put things down you gotta understand that that passion for the great has to overcome the the good, so appreciate you you you got some great things here and if you so if you want freedom in your life, your time your money, location, your freedom. If you really want it you got to go for it. Some great insights here from from Pittsburgh Lisi appreciate you being our guest today Vincent on the pathway to promise podcast.

Vincent Pugliese 29:42
Thank you so much, Brad. Appreciate it.

Brad Miller 29:45
Awesome to have Vincent Bugliosi from freelance to freedom the book that’s a free audio book, you can get it his website, which is total life freedom.com go there and pick up that free audio book and also check out the other resources that he has They’re on on his website. Of course episodes of his podcasts are going to be helpful to you as well. If you want to have freedom in your life, he chose to go become a freelancer to break the patterns of an established workplace and to become a freelancer and eventually established him as an author and a podcaster and heavy other resources that he makes available for people who want to break free as well. So my question to you my friends is what do you want to do in your in your life? What promises Can you make to your life? What promises Can you make to make a promise to have freedom in your life to keep your promises and in the experience the power of a promise kept? We invite you to do that. Follow the examples events it we’ve got some other great teachers on our on our podcast website, which is pathway promise calm, and we teach you about a process called the 40 day way where you could move through over and around and through adversity in your life to achieve your promise life. But Vincent might say is your freedom life, your promise life of peace. Its peace of mind prosperity, which includes financial prosperity and includes health and vitality, and purpose, which is having a purpose or reason to live. You can do it I know that you can use some of the helpful tools we have here for you on a pathway to promise calm and make a commitment to yourself. Promise to yourself to make a promise. Keep a promise and enjoy the power of a promise kept. So till next time friends. Here in the pathway to promise podcast This is Dr. Brad Miller encouraging you to keep your promises because indeed there is power in a promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com. Until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. Episode Number 87. Developing an active positive attitude.

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Hi, this is garland bands author of getting busy helping you to overcome overwhelm and be more productive. Dr. Brad Miller helps you to claim victory over adversity here on the pathway to promise podcast.

Brad Miller 0:30
You are on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Brad believes every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose, and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad

Hello, good people Welcome to pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you for allowing me into your life here the day and let’s have a conversation. Just you and I about some things that matter. Thank you for allowing me into your ears today. And whatever activities that we’re involved with today, and let’s spend a few moments together, dealing with some with a with the issue of attitude, particularly about developing an active, positive attitude. We’ll get into that in just a minute. We did want you to know, here at pathway to promise we are all about you. We’re all about helping you overcome any adversity in your life to help you claim your God given promise, life of peace, prosperity and purpose. at our website pathway promised calm you could find out a lot more information about this. But some of the things that we have to offer, particularly some back episodes To the podcast, we have some great teachers will help you to develop strategies and ways to deal with any adversity that comes your way and succeed in your life. When the ways we do that, is by developing an active, positive attitude. One of my favorite passages in the Bible, live, you know that I’m a pastor of a church is when I’ve been able to teach or preach out of john 15th chapter, it talks about the vine and the branches about being fruitful, and how we’re all called that God is the father and we, and we are the branches and that we are to bear fruit, and that we are to be productive and fruitful in our life. And that when we abide with God, we’re with God, good things can happen. And if we’re not fruitful for not productive, they were not, you know, in alignment with God’s will. That’s where I want to be. I believe a lot of you of my good listeners here are in the same place where you want to be followers of something greater than yourself drawing a higher power and being alignment with that. And most of all, we want to be productive. We want to do something that is meaningful and purposeful in life. And one of the ways we can do that is by developing an active, positive attitude. What is that? That means where we actively are engaged and being intentional about being positive in our life and have an attitude then that’s reflected not only what we draw in and bring it to our life, but how we reflect and give things to other people. That’s what God wants, I believe. And when you do that in your life, you’re going to notice a big difference. It’s being very intentional, about being positive and being productive means thinking about it. The way I like to put it is with the BPLD that be It stands for boldness, take bold action, that P is for power, drawing on a higher power than ourselves that comes from our prayer life or meditation. And the LS for love that’s drawing on loving relationships with God and with other people. That’s the energy portion. And the D, the BP ELD formula is discipline that’s a daily discipline and the habits that we develop in order to do to have a positive attitude between ourselves and towards others. It is very intentional. So what happens when we develop a positive, inactive, positive, positive attitude in our life? Well, couple things can happen. When you do this and attentional way we do develop positive results. We do develop then positive relationships with others. We do receive positive reactions from others. In other words, you get positive to people where you’re more likely to get positive back. We do also get positive reinforcements from others. That is we give something positive others we will give them information back to us, which will help build up what we’re working on. And also we can have rejoicing in our life. We can have positive rejoicing in our life, that’s the celebration, peace, but you will have joy in your life. Then choose it, choose it over other stuff, choose it over the bad stuff. You see, this is where being very intentional about this. If we intentionally learn the right principles, and live the right principles, then we can love the right principles.

That’s what I want you to be about here. invest in things that are positive, invest in things that will fill you up in order to help you be resource in a proper manner in order to have a greater contribution to give to this world. So, this means that we have to understand that the source of this positiveness is not just within us, it comes from outside of us. Strong on a higher power. This is where our relationship with a higher power with God or meditation can come into play. And that’s understanding, definitely draw on a source greater than ourselves. And I just want to encourage you to do just that, too. If you’re a Christian folk person, get into the Word of God, if you’re from other, another faith tradition, draw it upon a source higher than yourself. When we do this, we understand that God really cares for you and really loves for you and wants you to be productive. And also what God does is also God will then help to prune you or take away the bad stuff. If you think about it, people really care for us also help us to understand there’s certain things that we do that are not helpful. That’s a negative attitude. That’s the things that are maybe good but not great. That’s the things that we can do. It also helps us know that we can be in partnership with others which helps us be productive. I think one of the best things you can do is have a partner in your business or in your faith walk, or your spouse, who you can work with to help you be productive, be useful and purposeful in your life. And one of the other things I think that you can do, friends is the power of promise. We talked about that a lot here in the pathway to promise, make a promise to God. If you need to make a promise to other people make certainly make a promise to yourself, to have a positive attitude and you will be more productive. And those of us who follow faith straight tradition, also know that a part of this productivity comes from being obedient. If it says here in john 15, that we are to be fruitful, then we are to do that to be obedient to that to that. You see, friends, if it’s going to be it’s up to you and to me, no one else is going to do this for us. We have to be responsible. That what’s what we mean by an active, positive attitude. The activity is on our place. What we do. So let me give you a little formula here that I think can be helpful to you. Just three words. If you take these three words and you put them together, it’s going to help you to develop an active, positive attitude. The first is to remain, remain means to connect up with this higher power than yourself. That might mean and let me give you a simple thing to do. Spend some quiet time every day, spend some quiet time in meditation and prayer, and journaling, whatever it needs to be. First thing in the morning is a good time but whatever is a good time for you. In the Bible, it talks about to abide or to remain with God in john 15 whatever that means for you to take your time to remain to go apart and to recalibrate and reconnect. So remain is the first part of the formula. Second part is to receive when you set apart this time, you can receive You have some power in your in your life that is receiving not only through this time that meditation, but it’s by what you consume, consume a good book, read for 15 minutes a day, listen to a good audio tape or a podcast, or something else can speak into your life or a good video on YouTube or something, then TED talk or something that puts good stuff into your life. There’s so much negative junk out there, that you just need to sort that out. And let the good stuff come in. absorb positive stuff, and that will fill you up. And the third part of this is to reproduce, that you when you share it with other people. It’s kind of you learn and then you teach. So reproducing means that you have some sort of a connection with some other person, that you share what’s going on in your life. This may be an accountability partner might be your spouse. It might be some people you teach, it might be some people into your co workers or Your children or our class, perhaps maybe a Sunday school class, whatever it be that you find someone to share what you’re learning, you learn best you transform best when you teach. So the parts of the formula is remain or to abide with his power greater than ourselves, to receive this power by putting good stuff in and then reproduce it by sharing with others, then you will be fruitful, then you will develop an active positive attitude, which will make all the difference in the world to yourself and to other people. That’s what we’re here to do here at the pathway to promise podcast, we hope we can be a part of speaking into your life, good stuff, to help you to know that you are valued, you’re a good person, you’ve got a lot of good things you would love to say you’re the good people. That’s what I like to call my tribe, the good people, the people who you know have chosen to be good and to do good in this world and to be fruitful. It starts friends in many ways by developing being very intentional with an active, positive attitude. That’s what we have to do here today on the athlete of promise podcast. We’re here to be helpful to you go to our website, pathway, promise calm, we’ve got a free gift for you there. We also got some other great episodes of the podcast that you can listen to and some other resources there at pathway promise calm. Until next time, this is Dr. Brad Miller encouraging you to keep your promises because there’s power in a promise kept.

Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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Brad Miller 0:00
pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. Episode Number 86. Fix your mind to grow your mind.

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Hey, this is Scott Mayor from inspired stewardship calm and you connected with Dr. Brad Miller on the pathway to promise podcast where we are doing all the good weekend.

Brad Miller 0:26
You are on the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller. Brad believes every person has a god given promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose and that you must have a plan and a guide to get there. The pathway to promise podcast Not only is your guide through the wilderness of depression and disappointment that stand between you and your promise life, but also brings you insights and direction from inspiring successful thought leaders who have transformed their lives. Welcome to the pathway to promise now here’s Brad Hello, good people. And welcome to the pathway to promise podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. What an awesome opportunity it is for us to have a conversation together about things that matter. What we’re about here at the pathway to promise is about helping you overcome adversity in your life, to achieve your promise to life of peace, prosperity, and purpose, and learn the power of making a promise keeping a promise and celebrating the power of promise in your life. We do that by sharing some good teaching today we’re talking about but growing your mind, about your mindset about the history of fixed mindset, and a growth mindset. We do want you to know that we’ve got all kinds of opportunities at our website, pathway promise.com back episodes of the podcast with lots of great teaching from lots of great leaders who have overcome some adversity in their life to achieve success and we have a free gift for you there. So please go check that out. Let’s talk about your mind. What’s the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset? Probably in one way or another, you have either experienced that yourself or you are one of these people who has a fixed mindset or a growth minded mindset. We almost all do. Perhaps you had a teacher or a boss or a parent or a sibling who seemed like they were perfect or who demanded perfection from you. That is a fixed mindset. That is there is a level of achievement. There’s a level of perfection that is expected that is expected and you go for it. Go for that achievement. Maybe it’s a sales goal in your company, maybe it’s a as an athletic goal that you have by a coach or by a parent or maybe it’s an academic achievement, for instance, trying to get all A’s or get a 4.0 when your report card is a fixed minded mindset. The problem with a fixed mindset is that it’s based on basically a understanding of the leverage of the negative over you leverage what you are not achieving, to what you can achieve, because it’s very, very hard to achieve perfection. So what happens to that student who is used to getting all A’s and all of a sudden in their sophomore year of college, they get a B, oh my god. For some people, that is a disaster. If they have a mindset, that’s Fixed that that is what their expectation is that they had that that be is simply unacceptable. It doesn’t lead to healthy living usually. However, if we have a growth mindset, a growth mindset has different parameters of how it works in our life is about understanding the circumstances we’re in, and then seeing how we frame that in our life. One of the things that I like to do is I’m a big basketball fan. And I like to study and follow the follow high school and college and pro basketball. And I like to study the teams and the coaches that have great success. And I happen to be from Indiana and one of the great successful coaches that came out of Indiana was a guy named john wooden, who went to college on the college level at UCLA in the 60s in the 70s. Won 10 national championships.

And he did so based on what he called his pyramid of success and then another episode of the podcast. We’ll get into that in more detail. But I want to talk to you today a little more about his mindset about coach Wooden’s mindset. But how he dealt with the circumstances that he was in and still was able to persevere and get through things in his life to have the most successful college basketball team dynasty of any era. A lot of folks that follow basketball know about his championships but they don’t really know that the first 16 years he was at UCLA, that they were had a terrible facilities. They didn’t have the best record in the world. Their place that that they played, yeah, and it was an old barn fat they called it the gym that they played in was known as the BO bar and BO for body odor. It was a terrible place. The atmosphere was sweaty and smelly and not very nice at all. And there was not a very good wasn’t very good atmosphere. And for for several years that coach you wouldn’t was at UCLA. They had to travel around and often had to borrow High School gems and things like that in order to even to practice. And then he’d the first group group of players that he had weren’t that great either. They had to recruit their different sets of players and help build up the players that he had. What did he do? that went on for 14 or 15 years before he had any real success. He said about going to work with a mindset of growth, growing himself and growing his players and He kept working on progress, making progress going on getting better getting better every day. Yeah, he gave them you know, training and, and coaching and he was not you know, he was tough on his players. He was a firm disciplinarian. But what he was about all the time was these two main elements that he talked to his players that I want you to get here today is with think about a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. And that was two elements that he had and what wouldn’t talk to his players and that is two things get these full preparation and full effort. I’ll say that again, full preparation and full effort. So he wasn’t looking for mistake free games when they played her mistake free practices. He was looking for being prepared and giving all giving your all giving your effort. He did not focus on the winning or the losing and his players will tell you about that. He focused on getting better all the time. And so he worked with some of the greatest players of all time. You know, Kareem Abdul Jabbar and all kinds of other great players that he worked with. But he was able to work with them and to help them to grow individually. he respected them individually. And then they came together as a team to grow. And this bias towards growth led to excellence. And that’s what I want to encourage you to be about friends has to have a bias towards growth, get your mindset, not on achieving perfection because that is just a standard that is not really realistic. Set yourself on a standard Dad sees things in a different way. See your life in terms of preparation and effort and look to make progress and persevere. You can do this. It’s very possible, it’s very doable. So if you want to win in the game of life, whether it’s your business or in your family or your marriage or your relationships, or in athletics or music or in your performance or your workplace, let’s think about how you can grow being a constant state of growth. In two things come into play here, preparation, and effort. If you do those things you’re going to grow. Here’s the key for what we like to teach here at the pathway to promise.

The key to this is to promise yourself, make it a part of your mindset. Not to be that perfect person, but to be the person who can be counted upon to be fully prepared. And to give full effort, make that promise to yourself and if you need to make that promise to the people you’re accountable to at your workplace or your spouse or your children or, or to your, to your health partner, your workout partner, make that promise. Full preparation full effort, then keep your promise. That’s the thing. That’s what he wouldn’t did in coaching. He he held the people up to the standard of making a promise and keeping their promise and excellence ensued. So be encouraged today, during the pathway to promise that you too can achieve great things. When you have a growth mindset, full preparation and full effort. We can be helpful to you we want to be head over to our website, pathway promise.com. There you can find lots of back episodes, other podcasts which could be helpful to you and some blog posts We have a free downloadable gift all for you. Because our mission here at the pathway to promise podcast is to help you overcome adversity in your life to achieve your promise, life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. So until next time, my friend, this is Dr. Brad Miller encouraging you to keep your promises because there’s power in our promise kept. Thanks so much for taking the pathway to promise with Dr. Brad Miller as a subscriber, you’ll be a vital part of the pathway to promise community visit us on the web at pathway promise.com. Until next time, remember to stay on your pathway to promise

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